Post # 1
One of my best mates can’t come to my wedding he got the save the date card that’s fine but when I asked him for his home address he told me he couldn’t come as he didn’t know what he was doing even thou the wedding is in 6 months time. His father in law isn’t well but saying no to an invite by going on a Maybe doesn’t sit well with me. Any thoughts ideas or is the friendship fractured? He also has a habit of trying to get out of things.
Post # 2
Do you know what his thoughts are on marriage? Has he ever expressed or shown a disliking to your fiance? Without more concrete information, I suggest having a conversation with him. Doesn’t have to be an awkward confrontation so much as a hangout, as good friends do, and ask how things are going for him, check in on him. If you still can’t get a read or if he doesn’t ask how things are with you, let him know you’re feeling a little down, and tell him that it would mean a lot to you for him to attend the wedding. See how he responds, and hopefully you’ll get more information. If he’s a good friend to you, there must be some reason he isn’t keen on attending your wedding. Best of luck.
Post # 3
It sounds like he just doesn’t want to come. It’s up to you to decide if that’s a friendship ending situation or not, but ultimately the choice to attend or not is up to him.
Would it involve travel for him?
Post # 4
Some people don’t like weddings, amusement parks, bars, beaches, etc. I wouldn’t judge his friendship value by this.
Post # 5
I get that weddings may not be someone’s thing but I think when it’s an event/moment which is really significant for your close friend, you need to put your own dislikes to one side and be there for your friend.
I really dislike theme parks, where a friend of mine wanted to celebrate her 30th, I went because she’s a good friend of mine and celebrating her 30th is more important to me than my dislike for theme parks.
I think you need to have a chat with this friend, face-to-face to see if everything is ok.