- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
I’m having trouble picking a date and super stressed out- Is there no such thing as a perfect date? Because I’m having a really hard time “settling” on a wedding date.
I wanted to get married on May 25, 2014 (our 4 year anniversary on a Saturday- so perfect!!) BUT, my sister will be getting married on May 10th in NorCal (about a 10 hour drive from where I live) and we want a 6 month buffer between weddings and I still want to get married outside so weather worries me.
We are looking at November- 6 months after my sister and hopefully good enough weather to still get married outside. Chance of rain in San Diego in November ranges from 10-14% the first two weeks of November. Is that low? I am definitely worried about rain!! But I don’t want to wait another 6 months for nice weather to get married in May 2015- that would be a 26 month engagement! 😯
We are deciding between Saturday and Sunday. Saturdays have a guest count minimum of 125 guests and Sundays have a guest count minimum of 100. FI and I both not only have small families, but 85% of our guestlist (which is 200 with EVERYONE- including 3rd cousins) is out of town/out of state, and my sister’s wedding is 6 months before so there is a chance that a lot of people won’t be able to attend both weddings. I am worried about not hitting a Saturday guest minimum and paying an extra 3,000-4,000 for nothing just so I can have a Saturday. Sunday worries me because I don’t want people to leave the wedding really early to get home for work the next day.
The sun also sets early in November here- 4:30 pm. The venue suggested to start the wedding at 2 or 3 pm, and the package includes 5 hours. Is 7 pm/8pm too early to end a wedding? I can add an extra hour for $1,000.
I also thought that if we did get married on a Sunday, then the wedding ending early would give people a chance to drive home- the venue is kinda in the boonies, so it’s at least an hour drive for everyone, even locals. I should also note that we will have a signature drink at cocktail hour and wine with dinner, but don’t want a party atmosphere.
With all that background, here are the options:
Option #1- Sunday, November 2, 2014:
Pro: I like the date 11/2, like 1+1=2! And there is a lower chance of rain than the next weekend.
Con: Daylight Savings Time- is this a disaster waiting to happen? People may leave early because it is a Sunday and they have work on Monday.
Option #2- Saturday, November 8, 2014:
Pro: Saturdays are more convenient for OOT guests to travel and they are less likely to leave home early.
Con: Kinda a waste of money if I don’t meet my guest minimums- I would pay the $100 per head fee for 125 regardless of how many people attend and 85% of my guestlist is OOT.
Option #3- Sunday, November 9, 2014:
Pro: It’s not daylight savings time and a Sunday so we can afford it. It is Veteran’s Day on Tuesday (11/11), so some people may have Tuesday off and take Monday off to get a 4 day weekend? Is that a thing?
Con: There is nothing cute or special about the date, higher chance of rain than option #1. It’s a Sunday, so some people may leave the wedding early to drive home for work.
Option #4- May 2015:
Pro: The weather might be better. More people may be able to come because it’s further away from my sister’s wedding.
Con: 26 month engagement and I don’t want to wait! :-((
Option #5- Another Date
You tell me bees! Am I missing something?