Post # 1
so the FI and I are having a having a black tie reception and the coordinator insists that we should not give people more than two meal options (not counting vegetarian). the three options that i’m debating are chicken, salmon and veal. chicken and salmon are the same price at our venue, and veal is 3 or 4 dollars more per person.
cost is a consideration but not the only one. if only about 50% of our guests pick the veal we would still be confortably under our budget. if everyone does, we kinda max out. that’s a reason for having the options be chicken and salmon. however, i’ve always dreamed of a black tie wedding and that’s why we’re doing that…and i’m kinda afraid that people will be like, i put on a tux for chicken? but i realize i’m going a bit crazy at this point bc of my indecision!
of course, there’s always the option of just picking one and giving people who don’t eat chicken/salmon (since we can’t afford to do that with the veal) a vegetarian option and be done with it (and forget about assigned seating problems!).
so what do you bees say?
thank you so much for saving my sanity!! 🙂
Post # 3
People don’t know about the choices you never give them 🙂
So stick with chicken or salmon and call it a day!
Post # 4
Stick with what you can afford. Chicken and salmon options are just fine. And, try to keep in mind, people aren’t attending your wedding for the food 🙂
Post # 5
This is what my mom always told me…..
At the end of the day people are not going to be talking about what they ate… instead they’ll talk about how beautiful you were.. how happy ya’ll looked… so and so’s funny toast… and uncle so and so that really did that on the dance floor.
I’d stick with Chicken and Fish and like @daydreamwanderer said call it a day 😉
Post # 6
I’d be afraid that a lot of people would not like veal (the whole baby cow and treatment thing) – not that I would be objecting. I love me some baby cow. 🙂
Post # 7
I would ABSOLUTELY not just serve salmon. It happens to be my favorite, but a lot of people do not like it! I would say chicken and beef or chicken and salmon (I persaonlly don’t eat veal, a lot of people don’t eat that either)..
Why are you letting your coordinator tell you what to do? If you want to give three options, then do it, and tell her it’s your decision, not hers. You hired her, not vice versa.
Post # 8
As a side note, I do NOT agree that people won’t remember the food. They will only not remember it if it is typical wedding fare. If it is special, they will remember it. I ahve been to a couple of wedding where the food was unique and I will always remember that. If you need to save money somewhere, cut the cake out and do a dessert. I have been told by a wedding planner that most cake ends up in the trash and is a total waste of substantial portion of your budget.
Post # 9
I know this sounds nuts, but I’m not even a crazy peta liberal but I won’t eat veal. My FFIL is so anti green things, goes hunting, and refuses to eat veal because of the cow treatment. So hey chicken and salmon is the more chic choice in my opinion and probably many more others that you wouldn’t realize.
Post # 10
I think that veal is a REALLY horrible idea so I say go with the chicken and salmon.
Post # 11
I agree with PP. I personnally love veal, but A LOT of people will not eat it, and may really look down on you for serving it. I love having a fish option, so I say definitely offer salmon, but lots of people just like their traditional chicken and don’t like fish, so I think chicken + salmon + vegetarian is the way to go. Especially since a wedidng is about satisfying your guests, not serving the most exciting, gourmet menu you can. Just – IMO – make sure that your chicken option is something interesting, not just your same old banquet chicken dish. Good luck – sounds delicious by the way. :o)
Post # 12
Chicken & salmon. Poor baby cow 🙁
Post # 13
I would serve anything but veal. 🙁 Could you serve some different kind of beef option instead? 🙂
Post # 14
I’m having a black tie optional menu and one of our options is chicken, so I totally disagree with the “I can’t believe I put on a tux for chicken” concern. To me, the key is making sure it’s fantatic exciting chicken, not just over cooked dry mystery-herb roasted (not trying to hate, because I’ve had some fabulous herb roasted chicken, but I’ve also found that some of the most disspointing catered dinners I’ve seen have been totally dried out, covered in flavorless unidentified green specs, “herb roasted” chicken). You can also make it exotic by dressing up the sides, which can make it feel more special. For example, we’re doing a pomegranate laquered chicken, with a sweet onion polenta. It is *fantastic* and I may end up ordering it over the filet myself!
Also, everyone has they’re priorities, but add me to the “always remembers the food” column. Of course it’s not why we go to weddings, but a large part of a reception is spent eating, so if the food was really fabulous or there was something creative and unusual, it makes an impression.
Post # 15
@ChiCat: i guess my concern went more to “just” serving chicken. if i was serving beef as well, i wouldn’t be concerned. i’m just afraid of it not being special enough… the wedding is in puerto rico and i think they are giving a pr “twist” to the food, so hopefully that’ll make it exciting for our guests no matter what 🙂
what was your vote for?
@rachel_leigh: the next beef option starts at $7 more per person… that’s the only reason why veal was the other option we were considering…
we will also have a roasted pig on a spit with cocktail portions being passed around during the cocktail hour, along with passed hors d’oeuvres, if that makes a difference to anyone!