(Closed) Help Me Please….

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Are You and your SO Facebook friends?
    Yes : (23 votes)
    22 %
    No : (7 votes)
    7 %
    No we dont have social sites : (11 votes)
    10 %
    Yes and are relationship status is public : (65 votes)
    61 %
  • Post # 3
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    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @ready121:  Oh girl, I just commented on your other post. FI and I DON’T have facebooks. If he doesn’t want to be your friend on FB, I think thats pretty bad. I used to have a MySpace and FB, but when my FI told me how he felt about it, I cancelled my accounts. He was uncomfortable with it and I respected his feelings. My FI is more important than a social site. It could sound a little controlling, but there are other ways of keeping in contact with other people that are important. You need to talk to him.

    Post # 5
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    3619 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    From my own experience, the only longterm guy I dated who didn’t want to be FB “official”, also didn’t want a serious relationship. We were seeing each other for 18 months. We are still friends but it was only another 18 months or so after we stopped seeing each other that he would admit we were ever in a relationship.  He also took me to amazing restuarants and operas, on vacations overseas and lavished me with gifts. That said, he never wanted to live with me. On another note: I know a lot of people who don’t make their relationship public, it’s not how they use FB.

    Post # 6
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    287 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Doesn’t he give you a reason why he doesn’t want to be FB friends? He has to do that.

    Post # 9
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    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @ready121:  I think thats an issue if he has ex GF friends on FB and he doesn’t want to be your friend. What is there to hide? If he doesn’t go on FB that often, whats the point of having it?

    I don’t think thats cool, but thats just my opinion.

    Post # 11
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    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    No problem! I hope everything gets good 🙂

    Post # 13
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    24 posts
    Newbee

    @ready121:  If he doesn’t get on FB that often, then what does he care if you’re friends with him there or not? It won’t affect much. I could understand if he has lots of coworkers on FB and not many personal contacts, he might not want vacation photos of himself there, but you could always not tag him in pictures… If this is important to you, he should at least be willing to give you a legitimate reason for not wanting to be friends with you on FB that makes sense. If he can’t be friends with you on FB, then who can he be friends with? 

    I don’t mean to sound paranoid, but what non-shady reason does he have to want to keep you from being friends with him on FB? It’s not like he’s given you an answer to that question yet… I think if he’s not willing to delete his account “since he never uses it”, then he should be willing to be friends with you. I get when people don’t want to put relationship stuff on there, but seriously… being able to access his whole profile and “like” his status update isn’t a big deal. Especially if you’re living together. He needs to clear this up one way or another. 

    Post # 15
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    121 posts
    Blushing bee

    so the only reason he’s given is that its because you want it? that doesn’t sound quite right, maybe a little controlling? i could be wrong but what that basically says to me is that he’s saying no just to piss you off / be awkward.. i hope if you speak to him again he  gives you a more acceptable reason!

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