Help me please

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@anonanonanonbee:  tell him to go ahead and sue, and that any and all further contact between you will need to be between your respective lawyers because you will never speak to him again.  No contract – no payment due. And honestly I bet you just about anything that he won’t sue. 

 

Post # 4
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1072 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@anonanonanonbee:  Ignore him. No contract means you don’t owe him a thing – especially not $800 for cards you didn’t even use! He’s just being immature and ridiculous.

Apart from anything else, I highly doubt he had legal rights from your photographer to use, edit and print the engagement photo anyway.

Post # 6
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1072 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@anonanonanonbee:  It doesn’t actually matter if you used them or not. The fact is that he gave you the files as a gift back when you were friends, so unless he has written evidence showing that you promised him $800 for them, you owe him nothing. Ignore him and don’t agree to pay a thing.

He can take it to court if he likes, but no judge is ever going to rule in his favor so who cares.

Post # 8
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1072 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@anonanonanonbee:  If he takes you to court, the judge will likely ask him if you had a written or verbal contract for payment. He doesn’t have a written one, and even if he lies and says there was a verbal one, it is just your word against his. Presumably you have all of your records (texts and so on) showing the friendship broke down and that since then he decided to charge you for what was originally a gift. So the case gets dismissed and the judge tells him to go jump.

If he admitted in writing that you were ‘using’ him at the time, that pretty much shows that there was no contract for payment. Make sure you keep any emails and texts where he talks about the files or being angry at you because the friendship has ended. He can’t retroactively decide to charge you for a gift.

Post # 9
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2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wouldn’t do anything. He has no grounds on this with no verbal or written contract with you so you’re ok. He’s just trying to see what he can get out of you. Keep your records handy of save-the-dates and menus you actually used.

Post # 10
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1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@anonanonanonbee:  there is no way he has a case if you never agreed to pay him.  is that his job or was he helping you as a friend?  sounds like the latter.  it seems to me that he is pissed and depressed and trying to get back at you for throwing him out.  i wouldn’t care about it, but be careful what you put in an email because that could be brought up in court, so call him instead.

Post # 11
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1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If he has nothing to prove that his services were ever anything other than a gift, such as a contract, emails about pricing, or texts about payment, dated before he rendered the services, as far as I can tell there’s no way he would be awarded any money. If somehow I’m wrong, and a judge believes him over you without evidence, you could probably get the amount reduced by showing that what he wants to charge is way higher than comparable services.

If he sues you, it’ll be a pain in the ass, but you’ll win. Also I’m pretty sure it costs at least $20 to sue someone, so he’d be out that.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Send him an invoice for what he owes you.  Tell him any further contact will need to be through lawyers.  Once he sees what you have done for him he should grow up and leave you alone.

Post # 13
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1987 posts
Buzzing bee

As PPs have said, he has no case since there is no contract. Just to cover yourself, save any and all written exchanges between you–emails, texts, etc. just in case you might need them for something. 

What a douche-canoe. 

Post # 14
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196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It may be passive aggressive and immature but truthfully I would send him an invoice for $800 for the tutoring your husband provided him.

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