Help me settle a friendly bet–my MOH thinks I'm "crazy"

posted 2 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Did you or do you plan to clean up decor after your wedding?
    Yes : (43 votes)
    30 %
    No : (99 votes)
    70 %
  • Post # 2
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    Sorry to be a no… My number goal is for everything to be hassle free the day of (before and after the event). That’s sweet of you to be considerate, but the day is tiring enough for you two and it’s your special day. Let others handle it.

    Post # 3
    1180 posts
    Bumble bee

    I didn’t clean up, and I never in a million years would have expected my guests to do it. If I had a bridal party, I wouldn’t expect them to do it either. I hired planners who handled gathering and packing away the decor. We designated a family member to take the decor from the venue for us. The planners loaded up her car (there wasn’t a ton) and that was it. 


    Post # 4
    7025 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    scarlettbegonias87:  No, we went off to our honeymoon suite for sexy time! We were fortunate that the families were willing to clean up for us (and there wasn’t a real lot to do). Even if wedding night sex isn’t a must, I feel it would be a slight downer to end my wedding night with half an hour of tidying up.

    Post # 6
    6440 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We’re having a small wedding, so we’ll both be doing some setup and cleanup. It shouldn’t be too bad I think. 

    Post # 7
    1131 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    sorry for your MOH, but yes… FI and I cleaned up after our wedding. We had to – we only had like 20 minutes to get all the guests off the boat. FI thought originally very much like your MOH and wanted to do the whole drive away into the sunset thing and leave cleanup for close family members. But once I helped him understand how difficult it would be to get family members on board with knowing exactly what needed to be taken down and put in what car, he agreed it would be easier to just do everything ourselves. We did get help from family members as well.

    Post # 9
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Yup we stayed and helped clean up everything. We loaded up my parents cars with all the decor and gifts. I would feel awful leaving everyone else to do this. They helped make the day great, I’m not leaving them to clean up! It honestly didn’t take that long, like 30 minutes maybe. I think it’s the respectful thing to do unless you hire people to do it. 

    Post # 10
    15011 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We cleaned up, but if I had it to do all over again, hell no I wouldn’t. It totally sucked. I would have paid someone to do it knowing what I know now. I was recently at a wedding where we kicked the bride out from cleaning up her own wedding, she has thanked me a dozen times since because she and her husband got a nice send off rather than cleaning up.

    Give her the ten, lol.

    Post # 11
    156 posts
    Blushing bee

    scarlettbegonias87:  No way will I be cleaning anything up ! I plan to be whisked off to our gorgeous accommodation and the venue fee covers all clean up cost thank goodness

    Post # 12
    1608 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    DH and I started to help pack things up, but we got told to leave several times. We wern’t leaving, so my parents, aunt, and MOH literally pushed us out the door.

    Post # 13
    458 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m DEFINITELY not going to clean up after my own wedding reception!  I’ll have someone take the gifts and someone take our decorations and important things, and I won’t worry about getting any of it till I get back from the honeymoon 🙂

    Post # 14
    2414 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    scarlettbegonias87:  Nope my aunts have kindly offered to clean up for us.  

    Post # 15
    1500 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

    Not cleaning up was actually something that was at the forefront of my mind early in planning. The last thing I wanted to do after the day was up was to stay behind in my dress (as the venue only gives us an hour), picking through half eaten food to grab my glassware. No. Asking my bridesmaids and groomsmen to stay behind to help clean will certainly be on my list of requested duties. Thankfully, the venue itself will take care of everything it provides, including linens and chairs and whatnot, the only thing we have to clean up are the items we bring ourselves such as the antique china we want for the place settings and the centerpieces. As it’s a destination wedding we’re limited on what we can bring so I’ve no doubt it can be all cleaned within the hour.

    That being said, I do know that a lot of brides stay behind to clean up and I think that’s a valid choice as well.






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