Help Me Solve My Christmas Quandary!

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: How do I solve the Christmas Gift Quandary?
    Continue to give "as dad's family" until you're married : (25 votes)
    63 %
    Give family gifts "as you & SO", leaving dad & sis to buy all gifts "from the family" : (7 votes)
    18 %
    Some other brilliant solution you're too Christmas-brained to think of : (8 votes)
    20 %
    Bah-humbug : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    i would give gifts from your family, you, and SO. doesn’t that make the most sense, because he’s going to be a part of the family too?

    Post # 4
    2222 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Are you guys buying gifts for relatives? Who are all these people you’re buying for?

    One side of my family adopted a secret Santa approach to christmas when everyone got older. Gifts are limited to $50 each, everyone writes down ideas, people draw names and that’s that.

    Buying gifts shouldn’t be a burden or a source of sadness about who has to manage it all.

    I guess if I were you, I wouldn’t approach the couple gift-giving thing until you are engaged. That’s just me. Everyone is different.

    Post # 6
    2642 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @dancingriss:   +1


    @MexiPino:  I would include your SO in your family gift giving.  So the family would now be dad, sis, lia, and lia’s SO.

    Post # 10
    2642 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MexiPino:  Well maybe you need to come up with an awesome group name, like The Christmas Avengers or some acronym with all of your initials!

    Post # 12
    42082 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MexiPino:  Have you asked your Dad and sister how they feel about it? Have you talked with them?

    If his side of the family won’t do a Secret Santa, the three of you (4 counting your SO) could just announce to the rest of the family that you are only going to buy for the children and then do a draw for the immediate family (Dad, you, your  SO, sister , her BF)- baby of course gets a gift.

    Post # 13
    2620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    come up with an acroyrnn with all the itials or just sign santa on all gifts

    Post # 14
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @MexiPino:  You and your partner are a social unit. After you have become an adult (especially an engaged one), then gifts should come from the two of you. If you were younger and living at home then giving gifts with your dad would be okay but I don’t think it is anymore. Just me though.

    Post # 15
    3342 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @MexiPino:  This of course isn’t what you are asking, but I urge everyone to just STOP gift madness.

    My family did that years and years ago and we are all better for it.

    There were lots of details and issues, but the bottom line: no one cares about gifts from family members.

    I like to think of gifts throughout the year and get them at times other than Xmas if relevant.

    Leave a comment

    Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

    Find Amazing Vendors