- 4 years ago
I need some advice. I made really cute “Will you be my bridesmaid?” cards and now I’m nervous about sending… See, I don’t have many close girlfriends… I’m on the fence about a few. Please offer your advice:
1. The first is a friend who I adore, who lives far away, but when she is in town, she always makes an effort to call me to have dinner. She is a joy and makes great conversation, and has even offered to help with my wedding because she enjoys doing it. Problem is, she got married about 2 years ago, and I wasn’t her bridesmaid. It didn’t bother me at all because I know she is much closer with other friends, and we grew apart when she moved. But, is it weird if I’m asking her to be mine? Will that make her uncomfotable??
2. I have another friend who I’m rather close to, she visits me at my job sometimes, and we text a lot, but she never wants to actually hang out. I called her out on it recently because she is really dear to me and she attributed it to her self esteem issues, saying she wasn’t really feeling too good about herself and holed herself up in her apartment. I would like to ask her, but I’m afraid she would stand me up again, like she did for everything else this year…. She says our friendship means a lot and she wants to change, and has been living healthier, so I’m not sure what to do… Would asking her cause too much pressure? I don’t want to make her feel self conscious or pressured, or if I don’t ask her, wonder why I didn’t since I always tell her no matter what ill understand how she feels.