I grew up with 3 sisters and all of us were within 4 years of each other. Our household was basically hell when we were all tweens/teens at the same time. We fought and screamed at each other and said such hurtful things and cried and screamed some more. I am having a boy, too, and I am SUCH a girly girl that I am scared of never having that girl I want to do her hair, help her learn how to do her make up, be there on her wedding day, etc! But what makes me feel better is just thinking about how much easier a boy will be as a teenager compared a girl…you could also keep that in mind that you are going to have a little testosterone in the mix instead of raging estrogen! I know my Dad was a little worn out with 5 women in the house with him being the only guy for 20+ years.
Little girls are SO cute and the retail market is complety girl-heavy with adorable clothes, accessories, etc. etc. However, those little girls grow up into teens who are more expensive with wanting/needing bras, feminine products, makeup, jewelry, etc.! Add in all the drama that comes with girls and I am no longer disappointed about this baby being a boy. Maybe try and keep the long-term picture in your head instead of just thinking about adorable baby girl things? Like I said before that helps me tremendously!
I also think boy names are SO MUCH HARDER than girl names to pick out. This doesn’t make it any easier, either! But sometimes you just have to literally go through a huge list of boy names, say each one out loud, and finally one might click. I had to do this and I think I seriously read through over 600 names before saying one out loud that I liked. It was ridiculous and I almost gave up.
I agree with PP that sometimes your thougts end up controlling you, so you really might just have to have a little heart-to-heart with yourself and tell yourself to put your buck up and get over it, then just start only letting yourself think about positive things associated with the baby. If you start to get a negative thought creeping in, then try and chase it away with a positive thought or do something to distract yourself from thinking about it. When you are doing things like picking out a name, etc., you really have to have a “positive” attitude about it…if you approach it with the heartbreak that he’s not a she, then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment before you even start.
Also, if you seriously can’t seem to shake these thoughts/worries, I also agree that you may need to talk to your doctor about depression because pregnancy depression can turn into post-partum depression very easily. And remember that actual depression is NOT just a “funk” you are in that you need to snap out of, it’s legitimate chemical imbalances in your brain that cause you to feel the way you do, so don’t be embarrassed at all about talking to your doctor about it. It’s also extremely common and if you have to end up taking meds for it, the meds are very often not life-time sentences of popping a “happy pill” every single day, you usually do a treatment course and then stop taking the meds after a few months.