Post # 1
No, no she isn’t here yet! But it will hopefully be soon! December at the latest.
Quick Backstory for those wondering: I am the oldest of 4, soon to be 5. My bio brothers are 18 and 15. My youngest sister (adopted) will be 8 in April, and our *new* almost-adopted sister is 13.
We got to Skype with her for the second time tonight – how cool is that?
Anyways, I’m wondering….the 13-ish age range….what are they in to? I mean this was 10 years ago for me and I know for most of you bees it’s somewhere at LEAST 5+ years ago, but if you have any family members, siblings, kids, etc, what can you tell me? Who is popular? What’s “cool?”
Her favorite color is blue, she likes video games, scary movies, and reading. <– Yay reading!
I’m just wondering what you guys think she’d appreciate either in a care package, in her room when she gets here, what new singers should I get to know? Lol.
I know I sound crazy, but you guys have dealt with my crazy for several thousand posts now.
Post # 3
Is Justin Bieber still popular? LOL, I don’t keep up with any of that stuff. It seems girls are growing up SO much faster than I ever did. I think I was still consumed with skip-it, puffy paint, and Punky Brewster at that age.
Post # 4
That’s a tough one.Is she girly? Maybe wait until she gets here and take her out for bonding time and pick her up a few things. You could get nail polish,lipgloss,scented lotions,bodywash,etc.
Post # 5
-Browse through the Young Adult Fiction bestseller lists on Amazon and Barnes and Nobel. The Hunger Games, The Maze Runner, the Divergent series, any book by John Green, Sara Dessen, or Ellen Hopkins.
-Technology is cool: headphones, cool little gadets, that kind of stuff
-Being “grown up” is cool, so make-up is a big thing. But real makeup, not the Bonnie Bell stuff. Nail polish is cool, too. Also, if you live near a specific college (or went to one or work for one) it’s super cool to have a shirt from that school.
-BE CAREFUL with things like specific video games and movies. A lot of times people will have very specific loyalties and favorites. Don’t be afraid to ask her specifically what actors, directors, or games she likes. Know exactly what she’s into and do your research.
Post # 6
@Diet Coke: She did ask about him! She asked if any of us like him, which…well no. Lol. But we can learn to, right? 😉 haha. I know, I hope that neither of my sisters end up in that category. I can’t imagine how crazy it must be to be that age. Ugh.
@kellmerr: She’s semi-girly, I think. Not NEARLY as girly as my little sister (she is a diva princess, pink, skirts/dresses, play makeup). Jenn (new girl) is a bit more of a tomboy, but she did mention liking a little bit of makeup, she liked my shirt (a fun print).
**Note: There is a huge language barrier, so I just want some things that are pretty universal to girls that age and also since I doubt we’ll be going shopping just the two of us for a little while. She speaks pretty elementary English and I speak EXTREMELY little in her language.**
Post # 7
That’s awesome that you’re thinking of a care package!
Post # 8
Not sure if they’re popular where you are (I’m in NZ), but the band ‘One Direction’ is pretty big at the moment, all the 13 year old girls here are going crazy for them! I’m not very much help with anything else though – I can’t remember what I was into at 13!
Post # 9
@OohShiny: Yeah I wasn’t going to get her any movies/games, we’d let her pick those out for herself — or if she likes any of them that my brothers already have, of course. Plus with the language barrier, I wouldn’t want to bombard her with movies.
The technology bit is a good idea – my parents are already planning on adding a cell phone for her to their plan, but I could get her some cute headphones for it like my brother’s since it has MP3 capabilities.
I’m thinking maybe one book – something super appropriate for the age. Also, I wanted to get her some cool picture frames, an empty scrapbook for any pictures or keepsakes she brings with her (and pictures they’ll take when they go to get her as they travel.) Maybe some cute jewelry – do girls still like initial necklaces/bracelets? Some lotion, lip gloss, and eyeliner — she mentioned liking to wear eyeliner and chapstick. Maybe some blush too, as that is grown up makeup without being anything crazy.
Any more ideas bees???
Post # 10
@Jamieg: Of course! 🙂 We did one for littlest sister as well and she still has lots of bits and pieces from it. We’re going to of course send her lots of pictures – some of our physical house and surroundings, of us, pets, of where she’ll go to school, just things to familiarize her with the area a bit before she gets here. I also wanted to add some cutesy stuff. Her birthday is in December so my parents are going to get her some birthstone jewelry for her to have. That type of thing. 🙂 Also we got her a shirt that is relative to where we live to send as well. Not sure what else.
@Mrs D: Definitely never heard of them, but that means absolutely nothing in regards to their popularity here! haha. All I know of was Justin Beiber and a band called LMFAO – I think it’s a bit more high school than middle school, but who knows.
Post # 11
Why don’t you organise a girly pyjama evening for you and both your sisters so you can bond? You could go and hire a movie (see if they have one with subtitles in her native language so that she can understand everything – it will also help her pick up the language she hears). Have facemasks, make cookies, listen to music, play games etc. As for a care pack, you mentioned she liked your shirt, get one in a similar style and some make-up bits for her, as well as your favourite book when you were 13 for her. With regards to music, it sounds like a Justin Bieber CD would be great for her. One DIrection are pretty popular too.
Post # 12
Where is she from? Maybe you could ask her what her favorite snacks from her country are, and head to the local supermarket for her nationality to see if they have any of them? I know from spending months abroad that food is the easiest way to avoid total culture shock. She’d really appreciate that, I bet!
Post # 13
Hello Kitty. I see this in the jr. high halls all over in the variety of styles Kitty comes in.
Post # 14
Maybe too off the wall for what you’re going for:
- What about string lights? I loved putting them in my room at that age. Glow Stars
- A Bed in a Bag. One of my friends who was in foster care said that was one of the best gifts she ever recieved.
- Curling Irons, straightener, blow dryer
- Digital Camera
- Sephora makeup kit with different shadows.
- Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, Lady Gaga
- Twilight 😀
- Magazines like Teen Vogue, Seventeen (subscription or single)
- Neon anything (backpack, shirts, belt, purse)
Pringles in an ‘American’ flavor are a good choice for someone who lives outside the country.
Post # 15
Actually, movies are a great way to learn a language. Put on the English subtitles– if she’s better at reading than speaking, sometimes it’s really hard to pick out the words when people are speaking quickly, but having the English written makes it easy to check.
Take her to a bookstore if she loves reading, or get her a library card!
Post # 16
@Captain013: Also, you have the best suggestions– now I’m reminiscing about decorating my teenage room at my parents’ house! I definitely second the ideas for lights/stars to decorate, hair things, nail polish (and remover for the mistakes), magazines, and neon things!
I was a tomboy but I loved testing out the girl things in my room before I wore painted nails to school or actually had curly hair in public!