(Closed) Help me write something nice to my mother, Please!

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

@onyx burgundy love:  Are you talking about thank you cards for wedding gifts, or more like nice cards/letters you’re giving special people in your life just to tell them how special they are? If it’s the second, how is she in her non-mother roles in life? Anything nice there that you could focus on? Like, maybe she’s not that great a mom, but she’s been a good daughter to your grandma, or been there for a sister or brother that needed her, or maybe she’s really good at her job? what about something like “I’ve always admired how kind you are to animals” or “your enthusiasm for raising awareness of cancer/aids/the environment/etc is inspiring.” Did she foster in you a love of books, music, movies, art, a sport, coffee, cheesecake? Do you have any fond memories of her doing your hair or shopping for clothes or anything like that? 

My mom is a challenging person to love too. I think it’s wonderful that you’re putting so much effort into being nice, and that you’re so considerate of her feelings. Yet it sounds like you’ve escaped the co-dependent trap that is so common. Good for you. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ugh, I feel you, OP. My mother is very similar (though I’m an only child), and I have NO idea how to interact with her anymore. I feel like I can’t trust anything she says or does. Mrgh.

What about something like, “Thank you for sharing today with us, and thank you for shaping me to be the person I’ve become.”?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@vorpalette:  +1. Or, alternately, could your SO write her note (sounds like you wrote the one to your ILs) thanking her (generically) for raising the woman that he loves & will spend the rest of his life with?

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@les105:  I like this idea. 

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