Help me..Too self conscience of my arms!

posted 3 years ago in Accessories
Post # 3
1072 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Congrats on your upcoming wedding, first of all!

There are actually plenty of things you can do to minimize larger arms. Firstly, a veil can be a godsend since it softens and flatters the area around the arms. A bouquet is also useful since it encourages you to hold your arms away from your body. 

Basically, what makes the arms look big is the bicep muscle pressing against the side of your body. That makes the arm look larger since it is flattening it and making it seem wider – not flattering in photos. What you want to make sure you do is bend your arms a little and hold the elbow away from the body. Eg.

Note all all of the above have their arms held away from their body, with a slight bend. That is the most flattering pose for arms, but even just straight down arms look a lot better when they are held away from the body a little:

Compare the above to this lady who is holding them right up against her body. See how her arms look bigger around the biceps and the waist is less defined even though she is a similar-sized lady?

If you have a decent photographer they should know all this already, but if not gently remind them that you would like to be posed carefully and make sure those arms are out! Best of luck!

Post # 4
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

You can find a lot of dresses with sleeves these days. That or add a light bolero/jacket. Here are some examples –

Post # 8
2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

Other than boleros, there are satin or lace capes or capelets that you can look at. Try either Tulip Bridal or Etsy! LOTS of options!

Also, you could always opt for a scoop neckline where the sleeves come on the sides of each shoulder.

Post # 9
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m a full figured girl and even when I am at my thinnest I still have thicker/less than toned arms.  I am not comfortable in a sleeveless or strapless dress for that reason.  My dress is sleeveless/tank style but as PPs have said, I am getting a lacy bolero jacket that is lightweight with just enough coversage to help me be less self conscious.  Good luck!

Post # 11
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@EmilyBeth:  I am not a fan of my arms either so I totally understand! I found that dresses with any kind of straps actually made it worse for me, so I am going with strapless.. And honestly I didn’t concentrate on my arms when I had the dress on, that was the last thing on my mind! I worried a LOT the days leading up to trying them on for the first time, because lets face it, not many girls can look in the mirror and say “YUP! I’m satisfied!” We are our own worst critics. I am sure you will look gorgeous! Just have to try different styles on to see what makes you feel best. You could always cover them with a borelo or something, but I would try strapless and try posing with your arms out, not against your body 🙂 

Post # 12
331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Ditto! Hate my arms… I do have to say, though, that I have been swimming for 3 weeks, 3 times each week and my arms have dramatically changed. I’ve lost 2cm on each arm and they look smoother and much nicer on the eye. In 3 weeks!! 

Good luck with the dress shopping!

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