Post # 1
Is this wrong?
My mother is law (MIL) will be in town next month and I don’t want to bring up my dress in any conversation because I don’t want to show her my dress especially since my own mother hasn’t seen it on me. We recently moved to the SW and all our family and friends are back on the East Coast. So really none of my family and friends has seen me in the dress outside a pic of dress in the store but not on me. Its kind of hard enough as it is to plan a wedding without them.
So my issue is, what do I say if/when she ask to see my dress because it is totally hanging in my cloest now. My next door neighbor says she will keep for me in her home if I like. But is this wrong to consider?
I already moved the local Craft Bridal Shower around her being here so she can be apart of this moment. I like my mother in law but I would like her to wait just like the rest of my family since no one will be here in ABQ until the Wednesday before the wedding.
Post # 3
Just Say No.
Seriously, it’s not that big a deal – just say that you want it to be a surprise for everyone at the wedding!
Post # 4
Ditto! if no one else is seeing you in the dress before the wedding, she can wait too.
Post # 5
Tell her you want it to be a surprise and want everyone to see it for the first time at the wedding.
Post # 6
I agree just say you want it to be a surprise for everyone at the wedding 🙂
Post # 7
Say no if she asks. Tell her you want it to be a surprise. Keep it in a closet. She shouldn’t be rummaging through your closets.
Post # 8
Yeah, just be honest with her. Tell her you don’t want anyone to see it before the wedding. If you think she might try to talk you into letting her see it, then by all means have your neighbor dress sit for you : )
Post # 10
Why don’t you just take it to a seamstress for alterations before she comes to visit??
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I told mine when she asked questions about it that it was going to be a surprise. Only my Mom, her best friend, my two MOHs, and my hairdresser know what it looks like. I wanted somethings to be a surprise. She didn’t like it, but oh well!
Post # 12
Don’t bring it up and if she does, explain exactly what you did in your post. It’ll be easier on you if you’re honest, and if you both don’t have any issues in your relationship then I don’t see this being a big issue.
Post # 13
Yea, I totally think it’s valid to keep your dress a secret, from everyone if you want!
Post # 14
Yes sat it’s a secret and stick by your guns. Also let your Fiance know that you want this to be a secret from his mother as he may not realise and think that it would be totally cool for his mum to be in on the secret.
Post # 15
I would tell her it is being cleaned and hide it!
Post # 16
I would just be honest and say you want it to be a surprise for everyone (that’s actually pretty normal), and that your just so excited for the big reveal on the wedding day. Or you could say its in getting alterations and leave it at your neighbors