Help! MOH problems!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee

why not have two MOH’s?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@MissStruggles:  Yeah 2 would be a great idea. In my experience, you definitely want one of them to be close/ local to you.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just have them both be MOH.

Both my sisters were MOHs.  At my older sisters wedding, I was MOH and my little sister was BM but only because she was 15 at the time. It really didn’t matter to either of us.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

You mentioned that your mom feels strongly about this, but what about your older sister?  Being a MOH is fun, but its also work.  Are you sure she would even want to do it- especially if you are closer with your other sister?  I lean towards you chossing the person you want unless you really think this would damage the relationship with your older sister.  If it seems like a huge problem I would agree with PPs that you maybe can ask both of them.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Well, definitely do what you want as it’s your wedding.  However, I’ll echo what the other PP’s said and ask why not have both?  My little sister and I were MOH’s for my older sister’s wedding, and both of them were MOH’s for my wedding.  It was so nice to plan together for things such as showers, presents, etc.  For my sister’s wedding, she “split up roles” – ie, I stood closest to her, little sister signed the marriage certificate but both were listed as MOH’s in the program and both of us gave speeches together.  Same for my wedding.  It worked out great!  

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree have both! 

I know some girls who have done that, it works out well! One can stand by you at the ceromony, one can sit by you at the reception, etc.  

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MissStruggles:  I agree with everyone that has posted about having 2 MOH’s. I’m having 3 MOH and 3 bridesmaid because I couldn’t just choose 1 MOH without hurting someones feelings (whether they would say that or not but I was the MOH in 2 of their weddings and the 3rd eloped so no one went to that it was just her and her hubby). I’ve known them all the longest out of my 6 girls so it just seemed right. I just gave them different duites: 1 signs the registery paperwork , 1 plans the shower/bacherlorette and the 3rd one will give the speech etc. You can’t go wrong with hurting anyones feeling that way 🙂 Good luck!!

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MissStruggles: Have you talked to your middle sister about it? If your family is so obsessed with “each girl’s turn”, and if the older sister married first, it is possible that middle sis deliberately chose you as MOH, to ensure everyone had a “turn”. Even if that’s not the case, she might be ok with older sis being MOH.

It also depends on what your family expects of MOH. If MOH is simply the one who stands closest in the ceremony and proposes a toast at the reception, it doesn’t matter too much who does it. You could also dress all the girls the same to show they’re “equal”. (Some people like to dress the MOH slightly different).

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Make them both MOHs! The older one can have the title without the work, and the younger one can actualy help with planning stuff, since she’s closer!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MissStruggles:  My sisters and I were going to do your family’s plan… but then I got engaged and was just like WHAT you are both being my MOH! This is ridiculous! And so far so good. One is the type A personality who gets it done and the other is the comic relief. I love them!!!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I say do both! If older sister throws a fit about that – she just needs to get over it. You are being more than fair!

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