Post # 1
A quick rundown of the situation. I made a website for our guest to RSVP and get information on hotels and such (save money and time). It was intended that only people with paper invites have access to this information. My mom forwarded it to EVERYBODY! Without my permission.
We have a super small venue with a limit of 50 guests for the ceremony. All of this is immediate family and a few friends (people we have regular contact with).
Now I have extended family and my mom’s friends RSVP’ing for our wedding (many I haven’t seen since I was 15).
How do I tell them they aren’t on the guest list and I don’t have room for them? I’m trying to have my mom do it since it’s her fault anyways but now she’s talking crazy saying that she just won’t come so there’s room for them.
I feel like cancelling the damn wedding, it’s for them anyways.
Post # 3
@aviatorbry: Man this is a tough one. It is your mom’s responsiblity.
Do you have a Day of Coordinator? Or a friend who is willing to calling them?
Maybe you could say someting like “I’m sorry my mother sent you this website but it was an accident. Please do not be any at the mother. Howver our venue and guest list has been decided and I’m sorry my mother has inconvienced you”.
But hey, if you don’t want the wedding anyway, go ahead and cancel it!! Do what YOU want to do!!! Especially if a lot of people are RSVPing that your mother invited
Post # 4
You need to put your foot down
I’d cancel the online RSVP thing or at least password protect it. Contact the people she invited directly and say that it’s a very intimate wedding and you don’t have the space in the venue.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Your mom is the one who must deal with this. She needs to personally call and speak with every single person she mistakingly invited and explain her error. This si not your fault. I will say, however, that this is why I would never consider an online RSVP at all, but especially not one that let anyone in to RSVP. I’d only use a service for which the person had to be listed as a guest before he/she could RSVP.
Post # 6
Take down the website immediately! It’s your mom’s responsibility but if she won’t do it, you need to call.
Post # 7
Yes, take down the site ASAP, and email your guests to let them know that if they haven’t RSVP’d yet, they should RSVP via phone or email instead.
And don’t tell your mom any more info about the wedding!!!
Post # 8
🙁 What a tough place to be in. I agree that it is your mom’s responsibility to contact each person individually and also to take down the website and create a new one that only you have access of inviting people to.
Post # 9
This is horrible, take the site down ASAP. Then have your mother call them and let them know it was by accident
Post # 10
Well, I took down the website since password protection requires a paid membership. It sucks because our invitations all have that on there (maybe we’ll just pass out cards with a wedding email address on them or something).
Since my mom wouldn’t listen to me or own up to her mistakes I spoke with my dad. He’s going to call the people that RSVPed and explain the situation.
Boy, what a disaster!
Thank you for all of your suggestions.