(Closed) HELP! Mother in law issues (kinda long)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 4
Member
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Have you spoken to your FI about this? Have you had a very thorough discussion? Not just mentioning things here and there…

You and FI are a team- you need to get on board with each other, based on your individual needs and concerns. Even if he isn’t concerned, it should matter to him that you are concerned.

 

 

Post # 5
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1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

It’s not like she’s coming in and rearranging furniture, or poking through your belongings.  You are living in her house, I think she’s allowed to walk through her house.  And is laundry the only thing she’s doing? I’d sure be grateful for that! Or leave a dildo in the bed “accidentally.”  I’m sure she’d stop doing laundry real fast.

Post # 6
Member
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@GoldfishPie: I’m surprised by your reply. Yes, the MIL may mean well, and they are living in her rental property, but is it too much to ask for the OP to have a little privacy?

If she wants to move out, or do her own laundry, or for their to be some space boundaries, I think that is completely understandable!

 

Post # 7
Member
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

IMO I think that this is something that he needs to talk to his mom about. This is his territory. You need to voice your concernes to him and he needs to take care of it. At this point in time its not your place. I can see how this situation is frustrating and Im sorry your going through this. I know that you said he is used to it and doesnt care.. But he needs to care that it bothers you, and thats where he needs to come around.

Post # 8
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220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I guess she is just trying to be nice to you…And cares for you as much as she can…It just what moms do lol…And it is annoying at times, especially when you are an adult…But I was wondering if she really thought she is doing the right thing, then telling her that you don’t need her “help” and that does annoy you might hurt her feelings. You said she is depressed. At this point she might feel very insecure and fragile…You obviously need to talk to her, to make her stop invading your privacy, but I guess in a nice tactical way, not to make her feel old and useless.

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