HELP** Mother of the Groom dress shopping trip

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

Not to sound funny but does she drink?  Try a cocktail lunch if she does and make it all about her.  Or, try a hoity toity place that serves champagne.  If all else fails, take the first dress and call it a day.  

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

MrsHistory-Bee:  I knew it couldn’t be so simple.   I wish I had some really good advice for you.  I wish you luck and peace that day.  

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter's Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Can you sit down beforehand and do some internet browsing to try and figure out what she likes and doesn’t like? If she has some ideas before going in, it might be easier.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

Research what your FMIL likes and where she likes to shop.

Take your MOH or chief bridesmaid or FSIL with you for support.  Then your FMIL will be outnumbered.

 Make sure it’s a fun day from the start.  

Go out for early morning breakfast.  You don’t have to choose the dress first.  My SIL chose her MOB hat first and then worked diwnwards.  I tend to buy shoes first and then work upwards.

Either go for a pretty dress or an elegant dress with some lovely jewellery.  No white or cream unless it’s part of a pattern.  No white or cream lace.  Go with a dress rather than a skirt or trousers.   Avoid excessively high heels.  Go with what your FMIL likes rather than what you think she should wear but offer to dress it up with accessories.  Some tasteful dangling earrings can make a plain outfit look brilliant.

Go to a cocktail bar that serves non alcoholic cocktails.  Have a nice lunch and dinner.  Have a taxi ride when you get tired.  Make it very slightly girly and fun.  Have coffee by the lake or in the park.

When you get back home the day will have either worked or not worked.  If it has worked you can let out a sigh of relief and be thankful.  If it hasn’t worked then you’ll just have to chalk it up to experience.  Sometimes people get so set in their ways that they can’t grasp the good things that are offered to them.  

Either way make sure that you and your MOH, bridesmaid or FSIL have a glass of champagne at the end of the day to celebrate surviving the day with your sanity intact.

 

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

MrsHistory-Bee:  You should try to find someone else to go with you if possible. Then set a date that works for you and if your MIL can’t make it that’s ok, if she does make it then you’ll have a buffer there so it won’t be as awkward.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

Some people are just flaky.  Others refuse to do anything that isn’t controlled by themselves.  Yet others hate looking at themselves in a changing-room mirror because they hate how they look.

I think that all you can do is offer two or three dates and if she doesn’t take them one of them it is her loss and she will have to sort out her own clothing.

It is also worth noting that shopping isn’t the only way of bonding and that all you can be is yourself.  It might happen but it might not.  Be pleasant and just see how things work out.  You are marrying the man and not his mother.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah, you’ll be fine. I did this with my MIL, and while she is very sweet and means well, she has a lot of issues. I’d bring someone else if you can, but you’ll be fine either way. Just make the best of it. 

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