Help!! Moved in with fiance, and I'm suddenly fat!!!

posted 3 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Could it be that you are having more nights in than gong out and doing activities? I know that since I moved into my apartment SO and I have spent a lot more time laying around than doing just about anything else.

Try cooking healthier meals and going for walks as a couple, if your schedules allow it.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mrs-ally-bee:  This is probably not at all helpful but I went through something similar. Before meeting FH I was a constant 115 and then within a few months of us living together I was 135-140. Still thin at 5’8″ but I definitely needed new clothes and went from a size 2 to a size 5/7.

Your weight can be affected by stress and emotions… gaining weight when you were steady previously can actually mean you’re happy. Or so I’ve been told. Your stress is no longer eating that extra weight. I was way too thin before because of stress and now, even though I gained weight, fell better. 🙂

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@mrs-ally-bee:  meeeee too!!! I put on 20lbs almost instantly. I had no idea that this would be a side effect of love Wink 

 

I’ve started writing down every single bite I put in mouth. From that, I’ve learned that I pick at food! A chip out of his bowl, a bite of his sandwich, just a couple of his chocolate covered almonds……I think it’s that nibbling that did it to me! That, and the sudden increase in wine Smile

 

I signed up for a 10k race to motivate me to get my rear moving – onto week 4 and down a pants size (thank goodness).

 

Don’t beat yourself up. Make your hubby go for an evening walk with you every night, seeing as this is his fault! 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Start working out.

I never gained any weight in my relationship but that is because I need to workout (for me) and I continued on with my lifestyle after I met DH.

Just make sure you make healthy meals as well. I cook almost all of our meals and I don’t normally make things that are excessively fatty and calorie-heavy. I also do our grocery shopping so I don’t buy much sweets/candy or processed snacks that are a waste (pizza rolls, etc). Every once and while they’re ok, but maybe only once every month or two will I buy something like that.

I do cook things that can be bad for your waistline (cream cheese filled croissants!) but at least I cook them from scratch and I limit myself on eating them.  I might eat 1/2 of one per day while DH can get away with eating 1-2 due to his great metabolism. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Oh yeah. We’ve been together for 8 years and I’m 40lb heavier. Mind you, I’ve never been naturally slim in my life. I maintained my weight at a normal BMI for years by weighing my food, working out obsessively, avoiding various foods, and managing everything by charts. Protein charts, vitamin charts, mineral charts… you name it. I was always hungry.

Got with DH, started spending loads of time with him rather than going to the gym, started eating rice and pasta again… and it was all downhill from there.

Lost the weight before the wedding… then I took 8 weeks off in which the forbidden pasta, rice, bread etc passed my lips, and I didn’t exercise. In those 8 weeks I gained back all the weight it had taken me so long to lose.

So now I’m back on my diet and gym regime. Again. And constantly hungry. Again.

Sad face.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Are you not cooking as good? Or eating later

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Rachel631:  Those effing carbs!!!!! I feel your pain ;(

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Do you think it could be a portion size thing? Do you find yourself eating teh same amount as your FI, that you normally wouldn’t have before?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I found that one of the reasons of weight gain had to do with the subconscious sense during meals that I had to “keep up” with my DH.

It took awhile for me to realize that whenever he got up to serve himself to a 2nd helping, he’d ask me if he could get me another serving. Invariably, I’d say yes to his sweet generosity. The plates were filled nearly always equally, so even though I weigh 50 lbs less than he does, we were consuming the same amount of calories. It didn’t help that I was raised to be a “clean-plater.”

Today, I’m keenly aware of how hungry I am and tell him, “No,” or “Yes, please, but just half what was served the 1st time.”

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It probably has a lot to do with portion size and not exercising. Remember he can probably eat alot more than you so you need to accomodate for that and start cooking healthier. 

And start exercising. The older we get the easier it is to pack on the pound.  

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

They are called love pounds;) I have them too a lot if them lol

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I ate a lot of burgers and fries and fried rice when my now husband and I first started dating.  I promptly gained 40 lbs.  So, it’s not just you!  It can happen to the best of us!

Start making healthier food choices (greens, whole grains, whole foods in general, nothing processed) and work out (3-5 times a week, do at least 30-60 mins of cardio and/or strength training) and you’ll be back where you started in no time.

Get a handle on it now while it’s only 20 lbs.  20 quickly becomes 40…and then 40 becomes 60…and then before you know it you’re obese.  Get a handle on it now while it will still be easy to lose the weight!!

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

@Billsgirl:  You know… it’s not even just that…

I like FOOD. I like lobster, and smoked venison, and duck in cherry sauce, and bisque, and chowder, and vegetarian curry, and organic wine, and traditional, unpasteurised beer…

I loathe junk food, never touch processed stuff, and am intolerant to various food colorings and preservatives. But I like food… real, honest food. With flavours… honest, fantastic flavours…

I also have a metabolism like a slug. I lose weight at a miniscule rate. I gain within about a day of eating an honest to goodness real meal. I envy women who eat whatever they like. I lived for months with a friend who weighs about 6 stone, never exercises, and eats about twice what I do. She even eats CAKE. And CHOCOLATE!

What can I say? Some ******* be lucky, LOL.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mrs-ally-bee:  I gained like 10lbs after moving in with DH… Then lost 22lbs for the wedding!

I started eating half of what he was for dinner, and picked up jogging 2-4 mornings a week! I ended up hitting my lowest weight of all time just in time for the wedding/TTC!

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