- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2015
I am trying not to get too emotional about this, but it’s really bothering me. My grandmother is starting to forget a lot of things and refuses to go to a doctor so my mom and aunt are trying to deal with her. They make her appointments and then she cancels them. So it’s just a huge stress and struggle for my family right now. I think we are all thinking it is the onset of Alzheimer’s and it’s very sad to see this happen. Anyways I have been with my SO for 3 years and at first my grandmother really liked him and engaged in conversation with him and was super friendly. As of the past few months, she has started to completely ignore him and won’t even look at him when he talks. She does not say hello goodbye to him etc. She completely ignores him. I almost think she might forget who he is and she definitely forgets that they ever used to talk before. I recently brought up to my mom how this is bothering me and my SO hasn’t mentioned it but I’m sure he is noticing how she treats him. My mom is struggling with her and just says don’t worry about it and starts explaining how she is being difficult in every aspect of her life and not just being purposely rude to my SO. Well I let this go until yesterday my aunt and I were talking and she said “your mom said you think nana is not being nice to your SO” so I kind of explained everything I just wrote and then she was trying to make me feel better but accidentally spilled all of the not so nice details that my mom neglected to tell me trying to spare my feelings. My aunt started telling me how my grandmother thinks in like a supermodel and thinks I should be with someone better looking! My aunt said she tells my grandmother how silly that is and that I am with him because I like him for more than looks … not that he is bad looking at all! My aunt also said how my grandmother says how my SO is keeping me from meeting other guys since I’m a teacher and I can’t meet anyone when working. WHAT!?I’m not trying to meet other guys. And she hates his red truck and thinks it makes him a red neck. He has a college degree and is a sales rep for a company… he makes more than double what I make, and he has a great relationship with everyone in my family. And he’s not a red neck for having a truck and why does she care what he drives anyway. Ugh. But I can’t confront her about this because I know she’s not really in her normal state of mind. And my mom doesn’t know that I know what my grandmother has been saying about him but I want to talk to her about it but don’t know if I should. I know I need to just let it go, but it is making me feel so sad. Do any of you have any words of wisdom to help me through.