(Closed) Help – My parents and sister don’t like my fiance without cause…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

“My parents and sister don’t like my fiance” – great, they don’t have to mary her. I seriously recommend you draw a hard line. They don’t have to like her, but they do have to be respectful and appropriate. And you should call your sister on FB messaging your ex – if she isn’t close to the family, she should not be invited to visit while your FI is shunned. You will feel like a jerk, everyone will blame you FI for a while, but in the end they will get over it and you will have precious boundaries that will be invaluable throughout your married life. My two cents.

Post # 4
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@KitKatNYC: <3 it and totally agree

 On a side note, my sister who I do get along with very well, did some of the same type of stuff with my ex’s. At one point my ex stopped by my sisters house because she was outside and my sister invited her inside and made her a sandwich! We had a very ugly breakup and it drives me nuts that she’s friends with her on FB. I have just chosen to ignore it.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think you have done the best you can in this situation- I personally do not understand how your family can justify this dynamic that is so hurtful to you- I cant talk long, but Im bumping this because I think you sincerely need the advice.

Post # 6
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452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I completely understand!  I have a fabulous FI who is kind, patient, outgoing, gets a long with everyone, etc. and I’m sort of the opposite so we have a great balance.  My family doesn’t think he makes enough money (he has a great job, a bachelor’s and a master’s degree) so they put their noses in the air towards him but I am the one who has to spend forever with him so I say it’s my choice!  I think it will just take time and more interaction with your FI and your family.  Even thought it’s hard, I just ignore all the comments my family makes and they have come around quite a bit.  Just give it some time.

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