- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
From the beginning of my wedding planning, my guest list has been an unmanageable potential disaster. My mom has 11 siblings, my dad has 6. My fiance comes from a large Honduran family. We are both getting married in our homteown of New Orleans, where we were both born and raised, and which everybody loves to visit (lots live away after Katrina). Our first attempt at a guest list netted 400 names!!
I finally wrestled my mom (the primary culprit, a big believer in “courtesy invites”) into a commitment to 210 invites, for a goal of 175 guests. We’re even holding the wedding on a Thursday evening to shave down the number of people. Even so, there are some painful cuts we’ve made — everybody sacrificed. Not to mention the venue has a cap at 200! Budget wedding blues…
That being said, after I sent the Save the Dates, I got lots of excited responses from everyone! Since then, it seems as though the news is making the rounds, and there are some people that aren’t invited that seem to think seeing the save the date card on somebody else’s rerigerator or getting the link to the wedding website from some email forward or facebook (yes, it got shared on facebook) means that they can come.
Most recently, a friend of my mom’s friend sent me a facebook message which said “Congratulations! Not that I am presuming an invite, but I wanted to give you my address just in case because I know you don’t have it.” O_o!?!??!
Is it just me or is this cheeky as all get out? Between this, my brother asking uninvited people if he’ll see them at the wedding (happened this weekend at a funeral, now I have to invite her, her brother, his wife!!!!!!), and my FMIL and mother with their last minute additions, we’re back up to 235… and counting! I have no idea what to do and feel powerless to stop this. The worse part is that I am feeling like a Scrooge because I’d love everyone to come and share our joy – my FI and I are both very family oriented — but I’m being forced to be budget minded. I also don’t want to run out of food… did I mention we’re on a budget ??