Post # 1
I can’t go into too much detail as my girlfriend is a visitor to this site, and she may stumble across this… I am hoping to propose to her this December, and want to design two rings for her. She has always wanted a black diamond engagment ring and to elope in Vegas. She comes from an extrmely traditional family, and neither of these will fly (and unfortunately, this is not the type of family where they will just get over it, they will continue to make snakry and nasty comments about it for forever and she is somewhat sensitive to their teasing). I would like to do an engagement for us compelte with black diamond engagement ring and plane tickets–that we can keep private/only tell close friends. And then, a more formal engagment with a clear stone when we get back from Vegas, a story and ring she can share with everyone (and we will not need to worry about hurt feelings re elopement and can do what we want also). So, this is where I need help:
1. Is having two engagment rings…ok? A bit of best of both worlds? We will also be having two wedding bands (possibly three, all of my family is overseas and most are unable to travel) also I imagine.
2. She loves moissanite (currently on the waiting list for an amora gem in both NZ and Vietnam), so I know that the sidestones of the black diamond will be this, with a surprise emerald (her favorite color and birthstone) in the prong setting. I also know that I want the center stone of ring two to be a moissante (but one of the treated ones and her family will not be any the wiser) set in a vintage band in either a rose or peach gold with a pinkish-peach side stone detail–my logic is you can’t get more traditional than vintage, right? Any ideas on where I can have this done at? I have a fairly clear image in my head of both of the rings I wish to design (but welcome any suggestions you ladies may have), I just have no idea where to go about beginning to find a jewler, especially one that will deal with moissante? Does anyone know if I will need to purchase all of the stones myself? I know I will most likely be responsible for the center stone, but am unsure how I would go about finding all the correct sidestones in the correct colors and in the correct diameters, etc. when the jewler will be making the ring and will be able to do this with a great deal more accuracy than I. I am located in central Virginia, but am able to travel.
Thank you, ladies! I greatly apprecaite all of your time and attention helping me out!
Post # 3
@pitboss0612: Gemvara might be able to do this, it’s online! This is adorbale, btw, I hope she LOVES IT!!
Post # 4
I can only comment on the multiple rings thing, as I don’t know much about moissanite. I love your idea!! Then you can have the best of both worlds. It is very thoughtful. I think she will love it too. Best of luck!
Post # 5
Thank you, ladies!
No one else? I emailed Gemvara–still waiting on a response.
Post # 6
That is a lovely and super thoughtful way of giving everyone what they want – good on you, she’s lucky to have you! I’d be total,y stoked to have two engagement rings that I could switch out depending on what mood I was in.
Post # 7
@pitboss0612: She can always turn one of the engagement rings into a right hand ring later (if she wears rings). Your idea is definitely cute! I’m sure she’ll love it and its nice to see that you are thinking about her feelings and how her family will react. Unfortunately I can’t comment on moissy because I don’t know much about it but Good Luck!!!
Post # 8
@pitboss0612: Two rings sounds awesome to me! For the moissanite ring, MoissaniteCo can definitely help you out. They do custom work. Just send in pictures to email@example.com and see what they can do for you. Let us know how it turns out!
Post # 9
The ring design sounds lovely – but the fibbing to her family doesn’t! If you guys choose to elope in Vegas, make sure to be up front about that with all your family and friends. The formal “wedding” you do afterward for the sake of tradition, would actually be a vow renewal.
Good luck!! She is lucky to have a thoughful guy like you 🙂
Post # 10
Bless your heart! If this was my SO I would be so pleased you asked 🙂
So…. my 2p worth
If she is on the AmoraGem waiting list I would use that as the main ‘engagement’ clear stone you could do a very simple tiffany style setting.. or something vintage. I have been looking for settings for one myself and found Allurez.com that ship just settings… so once you have the gem shipped from vietnam back to you,you could have it set locally. Very reasonable prices. or get a local jeweller to do- maybe if they have a vintagey setting? or ship it back to moissaniteco.com who have told me they will set AmoraGem when they come out- they will be well versed in how to treat it properly
As far as I know you wont get Amora sidestones.. they are starting to make them 9mm, then 8mm.. then smaller but I dont believe sidestone size.
A hint. You can get on the waitlist yourself on betterthandiamond.com and if budget will allow sign up for 9 or 8mm round as they are coming first… or just pick the one you want. You will be emailed when they start production
This may also be a great excuse on the black diamond.. Amoragem will start to be released to the waiting list aug/Sept.. so if for any reason you still dont have it by Dec you can explain away the black diamond that you are waiting on a stone to come available (tell them its a diamond if they dont get it)
Alternatively moissaniteco.com is a great place for regular moissy and they have a vintage section on their site with ‘reproduction’ rings cast exactly as their old fashioned counterparts You can get them in gold, palladium, rose gold etc.
Adalia is one of my favourites and they can make wedding bands to match- heres a pic in real life as an idea
For the black diamond I think you will find loads online 🙂 etsy.com etc is a good place to start. Then she can wear this as a right hand ring after!
Post # 11
It’s so sweet that you’re being so sensitive to everyone in this situation. I think most women would be happy to have two rings. If she is set on the color and not necessarily the stone type, I believe they make black moissanite. Check out betterthandiamond.com in addition to moissaniteco.