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Calling all legal bees.
Long story short, my mother married her second husband and he adopted me when I was around 16 or 17. I took his last name as a rite of passage to our new family and finally having a father figure as I do not know my own, and her first marriage didn’t work out.
Fast forward several years and his true colors have really come out. He is by far the worst excuse of a person I’ve met, and his mother is no better. They divorced and he’s done nothing but throw mud in the courts during their custody agreements and is even now trying to manipulate her new husband.
And this just in? He’s filing a “medical endangerment” suit against her for the medication she is giving my little brother for his fevers and allergies. (Tylenol and Benedryl) This is coming from a man who has ver batim told me that he is “on enough medication to kill your horse”. He’s disgusting and ruthless and manipulative and I feel like a dirtier person even having his last name.
So…. how hard is it to get my mother’s maiden name back? I’m almost 23 so it’s not a matter of parental rights or whatever, but I’m seriously done being associated with him and his family.
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- Wedding: May 2011 - Vandiver Inn
This shouldn’t be a really big deal. You’ll want to contact your local courthouse, and if you can, try to call the office of the Prothonotary directly since that’s likely where you need to be. They’ll tell you the details.
After you have a legal name change document from them, you’ll need to go to your local Social Security office and have your name changed in their records. Then you can go and have your license or state ID changed. After that anything like bank accounts, credit cards, loans, etc. can be handled.
Hope that helps!
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Are you planning on taking your husband’s name in any way shape or form after the wedding? If you are I would hold off on that to save costs.
I’m in NY State and it’s costing me close to $700 to fully and legally change my name. I still have to change my naturalization certificate which will cost $345.
Filing fee for Name Change, DMV fee, Passport name change fee, etc etc.
In your case in your petition for a name change I would include some proof of your mom’s maiden name that was your name (birth certificate perhaps) and write out a letter indicating why you petitioning for the name change.
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Since he adopted me, will the name change also change his rights as a parent? how does that work after I’m 18? I don’t want him considered legally attached to me in any way. Will i need to rescind the adoption?
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@Gerbera: ya, i was thinking about holding out for that, but I’m not sure how long i will have to wait. Also, i’d like to dissolve and legal ties he and I may have as he is my “legal” father.
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@sleepingbeauty88: I’d look up the next of kin laws in your state to see wha ‘rights’ he would ahve over you and your estate should you be in medical care but unable to make your own decisions, and also his inheritence rights… AND also, what liabilities you could have as his legal daughter – are you in any way responsible for any debt he incrs… that kind of stuff. If it looks like he’s got far more potential power in your life than you can handle, set an appoontment with an attorney and look into what needs to be done. Also, I know I’ll sounds like a commercial, but you ‘might’ be able to take care of some things via a website like legalzoom. I keep hearing about them and am planning on using them to set up s living will so my a$$hat of a biological father won’t have any rights to make decisions for me should I be unconcious. I suppose, since my SO has colder feet than the Ice Age, I should look into a power of attorney for my SO should I be out of commission (In my state, my dad and mom – both nuts – are still my legal next of kin. They trump my BF in all matters should I get hurt or die, and could probably contest any insurance or retierment earnings I’ve set him as the beneficiary for.)
In Texas, next of kin goes:
So look into the name change if you’re not sure how long you’ll have to wait until you can be Mrs Hislastname, and then see about your state’s laws about parental powers and obligations for grown children.
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@Isilme: thanks, this was helpful 🙂