Post # 1
ok, so we’re not TTC yet but the baby drama has already started with my IL’s…namely my FIL and the fact that he thinks/says/DEMANDS if we have a boy it WILL be named after him. I’m not a huge fan of my FIL for several reasons, but I’m polite and try to put up with his crap as much as I can to keep the peace. We already told him we’d be fine to have it as the middle name but…I am naming my kid, I dont care no one has the right to take that from me….He says a middle name isnt good enough and he will DIE if we dont do it. It’s not happening and because he’s being such an asshole about it all and causing drama, it just make me more determined…… SO I need some ideas
Adding to this his dads name is odd in terms of it doesnt look “hard to say” when you look at it, but unless you say it with the italian accent? it sounds stupid…. and my whole family says it that way (wrong way), and took my mom 2 years to freakin pronounce it. The nicknames that would come out of it are TERRIBLE and obvious, and I will not do that to my kid.
I’m not too worried about girls names although I’s love suggestions….but I’m looking for names that wouldn’t go too terribly with a very…. italian last name lol….DH doesnt want anything typical like “mike, tom, dan, steve” etc….. but I dont want anything thats going to be just as much of a burdon as the last name.
Nothing starting with “A” preferably 😉
Post # 3
@shanbp: I can’t help you out. I just commented to say that you should have used the word “stupid” instead of “retarded.” That term is insulting and degrading.
Post # 4
My family name is super super SUPER Italian. Some men in my family are called Dean, Frank, Nick/Nicholas, and Michael. My stepmom’s family is also super Italian: most of the men are called Anthony, lol, but there are also Jim/James, Paolo, and Dominic.
Also, you might think about editing your post to change the use of the word “retarded.” I find that the use of that word in a derogatory way in a public forum can be somewhat hurtful. Just y two cents, of course.
Post # 5
@shanbp: Gianni, Giovani, Luca, Vincenzo, Lorenzo, Paolo, Antonio…. I could go all day.
Post # 6
@shanbp: definitely do not use the word retarded the way you did…. so that’s the first thing.
Secondly, I come from a family full of italians lol. I myself have a last name that is very italian sounding. there is a nicholas, ronald, Joseph, Frank, James, Rocco, vincenzo (my step brother actually), Marco, Anthony, Giovanni, Gio, Dominic, and that’s all I can think of between my uncles and cousins and stepbrothers.
the girls are, Marie, Julianna, Bianca, Sophia, Gianna, Gloriana, Patricia, Carmella, MaryJo, Mary, Jenni, Natalie, Nicole, Jolie, and Mia.
Post # 7
@shanbp: Just wanted to thank you for changing the word.
I agree with the @stardustintheeyes: The names she suggested are really nice ones.
For a boy you can also try Ludovico, Dominic, Leonardo, Gerardo, Giovanni, Emilio, Enrico, Carmine, Caesar, Carlo, Mario, Marco, or Vito. There are a lot of really lovely and beautiful Italian names out there.
My FILs are Italian, with a pretty Italian last name, and their first names are actually French. Their names flow really nicely together. Would you be open to first names of other ethnicities or do you want only suggestions that are Italian?
My best suggestion though is one my dad has given me: give the baby a name that sings. . . meaning, one that flows well.
Post # 8
I love Marco (but that’s probably just because my dad’s name is Mark)!
My dad is Italian and he’s Mark, my grandfather is Salvatore, his father was Gieuseppe (Joseph).
I’m not a HUGE fan of Italian names, and as someone who has an Italian last name, many “normal” American names go just fine!
Post # 9
Thank you ladies for the suggestions! Its so hard, Some of them I really like but they are also really close to some of his family names as well (which I will never hear the end of it for) argh!!
as for the wording, I do apologize, it wasnt mean to be in a mean way, I changed it… its kind of a regular word where I come from… and no one takes it “that” way… It’s kinda like the flintstones theme song when they say “we’ll have a gay old tiiiiiime”, and people now are freaking out about the word gay, when it wasnt meant in that way at all. And in the UK the word C_NT (im sure you can fill in the blank) is a term to greet friends?? say what? lol (I found that one out the hard way when I lived there). I know we’re in a politically correct society but I think we got to loosen the chain a lill bit. For the record, Im irish, my stepdad is jamaican, and I have an aunt and a cousin with downs synd…so I’m well aware of what people can say….but trust me it wasnt meant to be hurtful at all. But I do apologize if anyone was offended.
Post # 10
@LoggerHead91207: definatly open to names of other origins…any really, I moreso meant that they would somewhat flow with a very “bold”? last name lol
like…. half my family dont even try to say it, they just call me “Mrs. P!”
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@shanbp: Lucian or Luciano. My favorite name but it’s already been vetoed for our use.
It means “light” or “bringer of light”.
Post # 12
I would say, why fight this battle before you have to? There’s no point in getting worked up about this until you’re actually pregnant. Until then, it’s wasted energy and unnecessary stress.
Post # 13
@shanbp: Hmmm. . . Maybe a French first name would be nice then; a lot of them seem to just roll right off the tongue when you pronounce them. Something like Blaise, Beau, Christian (not really French, but it was listed as one), Clement, Damien, Edmond, Edmund, Eliot, Geoffrey, etc.
If you’re SO has a “harsh” sounding last name, try and choose a first name with a softer feel to it.
Post # 15
@KCKnd2: oh Im just getting some ideas “just for me” to find some names I like…. My plan is to have names for when the time comes so that my DH isnt pressured into it because I “dont even have any yet that I like….so why cant we just my dads name?” know what I mean? DH and I arnt trying to find them together, its more for my peace of mind that I have several I really like. You have NO idea how many times we’ll be at dinner with his parents and his dad will randomly bring it up and be like “well what names do you like then?” I dont say anything back and ignore him lol… but it kinda made me think I dont want to be caught in a panic (like a few couples I know haha). I know your point about not worrying about it but like I said….it comes up on a regular basis with them because his dad likes to stir the pot because he has nothing better to do :s
To quote my DH in ref to the baby name: “man… this is going to be a BATTLE with my dad….” (sooooooooooo ridiculous since like you said, Im not even pregnant yet lol, like really!!) He actually caused drama AT MY WEDDING over this!!!!!!!
@LoggerHead91207: Yes I like ones that roll off nicely! I do like christian a lot
Post # 16
@shanbp: You can always just pick the most random name possible and say that will be your kid’s name no questions asked. My FILs like talking about baby names once in a while (because they’re adorable like that) and I once told them, jokingly, that our baby would be named Chewbacca – because he/she was bound to be as hairy as their daddy. They laughed really hard and then revoked my naming rights. Lol!
It’s good that you have some time to think about it. And I’m sure your FIL won’t actually die if the kid doesn’t have his name. What a drama queen (him, not you).