Help! Need a study on average frequency people do chores

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
853 posts
Busy bee

@kay01:  sometimes even when I find my evidence it doesn’t set in with my SO. Lol! But sometimes it does! I know this isn’t your question but have you considered splitting up the chores ?

Post # 4
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@kay01:  Im pretty sure one of us is always cleaning some portion of the house daily. I try to do a good deep clean now every weekend or if not every other weekend but in the meantime Im always vacuuming, dusting, sweeping, ect.

Post # 5
1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@kay01:  House should be vaccummed at least twice a week. (There’s some guideline I saw once that said you should vaccum at least the amount of people in the house per week. I think that would get a bit crazy once you hit 4…)

Sheets changed, laundry, sweeping, mopping, bathroom cleaned, dusting, basically all major chores are on a once per week schedule, although if it needs it, I do it sooner. (Sometimes I sweep 2x/week because of dog hair)

That’s just my thought on it though.

Post # 7
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We have someone who cleans our house for us.  She does a thorough cleaning every other week which, for the 2 of us, works out fine.  I change bed sheets weekly and refresh towels a few times a week.  The kitchen counters get wiped down as needed throughout the day and disenfected at least once a day.


Post # 8
1287 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

OP, I LOVE that you are in the search for cold-hard facts to win your case 🙂


In this instance, I am not sure if proof is in the research, but rather your own personal wishes…which, IS the problem here, obviously.  I think you could ask bees how often they clean their homes, set-up a poll on here, and then show your DH what our opinions are. 


With cleaning, there are SO many factors!!  Small home vs large home.  Pets vs not.  Those that cook vs. those that enjoy eating out…ya know?!


For my FI and myself, our stats are as follows:  We have a 2-bathroom, 3-bedroom ranch-style home with a finished basement.  We also have a dog.  So, for us, our ‘normal’ is the following:


Deep clean every two weeks.  I wash floor mats, bathroom hand towels, shower curtains, bedding, SCRUB the kitchen, bathrooms, floors. Dust surface hours, etc.  NOW, I do not do every room when I do this.  My two spare bedrooms get a quick dust monthly, and I only wash the bedding before/after guests.  Why bother?!  NO ONE ever uses it otherwise. And our finished basement gets cleaned once a month too.  We do not spend a ton of time down there, but if/when we have kids, I am sure that will be added to the bi-weekly list. 


Daily, I de-clutter, wash counters and stove down (because I cook MOST nights), wash the sink out, and quickly wash down the main bath sink bc I hate hair, and its everywhere.  We vacuum every 2-3 days due to our dog, but her fur blends with our carpet, so it does not bother me daily 🙂


THIS works for us, because we do not have a ton of house, so deep cleaning only takes a few hours, rather than an entire day, and keeping things organized makes it feel bigger, imo.  I am TYPICALLY the one doing the cleaning, but I do not mind bc Im picky, and would probably not like the standard FI does it in.  Furthermore, he does all outdoors work, and we have a large yard, and multiple gardens to keep up with too.  We split the laundry.  He does mid-week loads, and I do weekend loads.  I think it works out for US in the end, but everyone needs to figure out what works for them too, etc.  I wish you all the luck!!!


Post # 9
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What specific chores do you want to know about?  I’ll give you my stats on our commons ones.

Dishes – daily

Clean the kitchen (wipe down counters and appliances, sweep, mop) – daily

Vaccuum house – at least 3 times a week (we have 3 cats so we have to keep up on this)

Tidy house (put things away, dust, make beds) – daily

Clean bathroom (tub, sink, toilet, sweep, mop) – once a week

Deep cleaning (mop entire house, clean windows, sills, baseboards, doors, walls, laundry, hose down patio, change bedding) – once a week

I hope this helps your cause!

Post # 11
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@kay01:  Hey!  For some reason, your post stuck in my mind over the weekend (possibly because we just closed on a new house, I have an almost 10 month old baby, and I’m determined to have a cleaning schedule to really stay on top of household chores).  lol  

I think that your situation applies to a lot of women.  I know that my DH almost never cleaned his bathroom when we didn’t live together and he finds dusting to be confusing. His parents now have a cleaning service, so I don’t know if that’s how he grew up, but yeah…I DO know that his family is HORRIBLE about taking out the garbage and dealing with the yard, etc.  It’s a constant battle here with regards to the recycling/garbage because he has no sense of smell and just doesn’t see it.  Truly, his family are “it’s not full until it spills” people and EWWW.

The way your DH is making you question whether or not you’re a freak (like “NO ONE CLEANS THEIR BATHTUB EVER”) must really play with your mind.  Not nice.  🙁

I would not say that I’m neat freak but dirty bathrooms GROSS ME OUT and garbage, horrible yard upkeep, etc. are just things that adults do because you should have some pride in your home.  My DH doesn’t see dirt the same way I do.  He sees clutter, but not dirt.  Whereas, I see dirt and just MESS.  This came to a head in a major way when we moved to a super small apartment with no storage and had a baby.  I cannot live this way at the new house.  I’m a SAHM, so it’s my job to keep the house clean, etc. When I was working, I was often annoyed with my DH because I would always do most of the cleaning.  But we came to a system where he tidied and I cleaned.  He is really great about doing the dishes after dinner and he has cleaned the apartment for me when I’ve been away visiting my parents with the baby. It worked…but there was still nagging.

I found these surveys for you: and I enjoyed this gem from a couple of years ago: 54% of Americans prefer to clean on a daily or weekly basis.  

I realise that the above surveys are from an “institute” that has an agenda, but…to me, that’s just part of the story.

I really hope this helps.

Post # 13
3677 posts
Sugar bee

Maybe check out the book The Second Shift: Working Families and the Revolution at Home by Arlie Hochschild and Anne Machung? It’s been a number of years since I read it, so my memory of it isn’t uber-clear, but it looks at the distribution of workload between partners in working families and examines how, in addition to wage-earning work outside the home, most women take on a disproprortionately large share of unpaid work in the home (i.e. chores). It’s an academic book, so I’m pretty certain the data on chores will be based on published studies.

Post # 14
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Is there something that he does more frequently than you, that you can point to? For example, waxing the car or something like that? Like saying, I like a clean house, you like a shiny car.  How long have you been living together?  My DH used to think I was too obsessed with cleaning but over the years he has become accustomed to my higher standards. 

Post # 16
357 posts
Helper bee

I do some sort of chore every day!  There is always something to be done – whether its cleaning floors, vacuuming, dusting, laundry, cleaning bathrooms, ect.. 

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