(Closed) Help! Need advice about annoying older sister!!

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
2641 posts
Sugar bee

Wow.  I would feel hurt too.  I’m sure it comes across as your mom favoring your sister.  Someone once told me that parents tend to “favor” the neediest child.  Maybe you can look at this as a compliment from your mom.  That she feels like you can take care of yourself.  But your sister, even being 8 years older, is still not an independent and mature person.  Maybe your mom feels quilty.  She might have done a better job raising you than your sister.  (Perhaps she was a little young when your sister was born?)  That could explain why your sister seems to have some insecurities.  Or even if she did well by both of you, your sister just having a different personality, seems to be struggling more, which might still make your mom feel guilty.  (We moms can feel pretty guilty…)

As for your sister.  Be thankful to be right where you are.  You obviously don’t want to be in her shoes, even if it comes with a free ride wedding.  AShe feels the need to one up you.  It’s sad.  But don’t hesitate to at least tell your mom how you feel.  She really should try to be more fair about this.

Congratulations on your engagement.

Post # 4
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

great advice tanya123!! the only thing i can add is that you can have the wedding that you want without anyone else pushing their ideas on you. GL! and congrats on your pregnancy and engagement!

Post # 5
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

First of all, congratulations on the pregnancy and engagement!!

I am so sorry that happened. Siblings can be very selfish, especially when it comes to attention and money. If she was a good person, she would have declined the offer, just like  you did.

You can’t control your Mom or your sister, so keep going in the direction you were before you found out about your Mom paying for her entire wedding. Obviously focus on the end result, the union between you and your perfect person. I am worried about your sister and her upcoming marriage, it doesn’t sound like she is selfless enough for it to last.

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