- 4 years ago
Hello bees! I just joined this forum. i have like a million questions but I’ll start with the most pressing one. I apologize, it is quite a long post
So a little background: I’m foreign born and my fiancee is from the U.S. We both live in the west coast, and are recent college graduates. My family lives in my home country although I have a few extended family that live in the US, mostly in the south. His entire family lives in the west coast. We are planning on having an engagement ceremony in April with close family and friends in my home country. The ceremony will be filled with a lot of traditional stuff and will be much fun! unfortunately most of our friends live in the US, so they won’t be able to make it; however both of our close families will be there.
After our engagement ceremony, our original plan was to have a church wedding in the US. We would be paying for this. Due to finances and the stress of planning a huge wedding, we decided to elope to Jamaica this May(just us for our weddingmoon). We’ve told both of our parents and they are okay with our plan. I told a few of my close friends who would have been my bridesmaids, and i got quite a few snide remarks. We haven’t told any of our extended family. The plan was to send announcements to extended family and friends after we got back. I was perfectly okay with our plan until recently….
I watched a video of couple who eloped and i started having second thoughts about just the both of us eloping. it seemed so lonely not to have anyone you know witness the marriage…No friend to help you zip up your dress…having strangers as your witnesses…havng the “awws” and “woohoos” from people you don’t know. Also, I’ve been dress shopping with a friend and she hinted as to how she would like to be there with us in Jamaica. Now i’m thinking of inviting a few close friends and our close family to join us in jamaica. our family probably won’t be able to make it because of the enormous amount of money they are already spending for our engagement ceremony but a few of our friends would make it. We would pay for food but not flight/accomodations. Dear fiancee is very much against inviting anyone as he doesn’t want us to spend our honeymoon with other people. I just don’t want our wedding to feel lonely.
For brides who eloped (just two of you), can you please share your experience. Did you regret it or love it? Did it feel lonely? Were you happy with your decision? Did you have a post-elopement celebration when you got back?
For brides who had a small, intimate destination wedding, how were you able to have a private honeymoon? Or is this not possible? We booked our wedding through Sandals, so our honeymoon will be at the same resort we are getting married. My fiancée says I’m delusional to think that guests wouldn’t want to make plans with us. One on hand it would be nice to have at least one person we know be at our wedding, and on the other hand, we want a private honeymoon.
Ahh I don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated!