- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I am in a sticky situation right now and just would like to know some outside bee’s opinions and thoughts.
Thru my fiance I have met and made some great friends, they are really just his friends and their g’f’s. One of them (who is his best friend, will be each others best men) got engaged about a month prior to us. Up until their engagement, my fh and i had tossed around dates for our possible wedding of next year. Well then they booked their day and it was right smack in the middle of the month we were talking about. Of course my fh and i decided right away that we would no longer consider that month, being respectful of them (they didn’t know we had been talking dates for us) Well a few days after their engagement we all are out, and i tell my fh on our way their that b/c they had just got engaged, i’d prefer we do not talk anthing about us b/c 1, we’re not engaged yet and 2, they just got engaged, and he agreed. Well during that outing, i was in so many words told by his best friends now fiance (lets label her x) , that I am not permitted to have my wedding any time near hers, that she has been with her guy longer than me and this is her time, and that its only fair to the guests (since there will be many that are invited to theirs and ours that are the same) that they don’t have wedding to close together to go to, for traveling and expense reasons. I just nodded my head and smiled, the whole time thinking, I gave you no reason for you to even bring this up, the conversation went from me telling you how pretty your ring was to you telling me this, and who are you to tell me when I can and can not pick a day. On the other hand, I see that some of her points are valid, but I don’t think she gets claim over everything. Since then my fh and I have gotten engaged and lets just say its not hard to guess who was the least excited. Anyhow, we had originally come up with another day 2 months after theirs, but once investigating further into wedding things, since I am orthodox, there are strict regulation on when I can and can not get married. Not only that but they only prefer to do wedding ceremonies on Sundays!!! WTF. Anyhow, my priest did tell me that we could try to get permission for a Sat. wedding but he has to talk to the bishop. So here’s my dilemma….. originally fh and i had discussed doing it fridays, because of the great discounts you receive for not being a sat.- also, reception places usually offer that same discount for sunday. Ok, Sunday isn’t that bad, we would save money still but will people really stick around who have to work the next day. So then, a light bulb goes off in my head and I think, what if we do a sunday with a holiday weekend, so that most people are off monday! well the one that is condusive to time frame allowance of wedding unfortunately falls just 2 weeks prior to fh’s best friends 🙁 so at this point i fh, you know we really should consider this, the season is perfect, timing is perfect and there’s amonday off, i will admit that i realize the day is pretty close to theirs and is before theirs, so isn’t ideal but we are kinda stuck between some rocks and hard places. Fh’s reply is, x told me awhile ago, she does not want our wedding in x’s month or before. Again I can kinda understand but at the same time I can’t. And fh i don’t think is going to budge on this. What upsets me the most is, we should all be happy and excited, this is a wonderful time in all our lives right now and we should be happy to share it with each other and excited for each other, i know i am. So my question is, should i push my fh to consider that weekend? should i settle for a random sunday and hope people stay? should i just deal with the extra money and pick a saturday?
thanks in advance!