Help! Need Advice on Relationship with Bridesmaid!!!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
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Bumble bee

My first instinct when I read your post was that your friend probably got her feelings hurt when she wasn’t chosen as your MOH after she “campaigned” so hard to be that.  And she’s probably being distant and unresponsive because in HER mind she now thinks you don’t consider her your “bestest #1 BFF in the whole world” after not being given MOH and just BM.  Posting those pics and tagging it “good friends” excluding you was a really passive aggressive way to “snub” you and let you know that she’s not going to make you too important in her life.  

In my opinion, people like her are waaayy too high maintenance (in a bad way) and will always get her feelings hurt over small petty sh*t constantly, and instead of being up front with you and talking things through she’s going to find other passive aggresive ways to “get you back” for things she deems as personal snubs (regardless if you did it intentionally or not).  Unless you’re willing to always cater to her low self-esteem by putting her #1 in your life the way she wants (which is complete insanity) and unless you’re also willing to accept the consequences of her tit-for-tat behavior if you don’t, I recommend that you let all of this go and allow the distance to come into your relationship, and only keep close the friends who truly love you and won’t try to exact revenge when you don’t cater to their emotional immaturity.  

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