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  • poll: What do you think about this (non-train) wedding dress?
    It's great! Look no further! : (28 votes)
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    frenchfries    June 18, 2010  

    Hello, hive So, after much debating about our location, we've decided to go the traditional church wedding, hotel ballroom reception route for our wedding. Now, I've tried on so.many.dresses. None of them have been very flattering, haven't felt right, or are just not good options.

    My point: I tried on a bridesmaid's dress today, and loved it. It fit well, flattered my figure (at least I think it did! let me know if I'm seriously mistaken!) and is an amazing price, which would help our budget. My one problem is that it doesn't have a train. I'm not sure how I feel about this; one one hand, it would be easier for the reception (and one less alteration to pay for!) but on the other hand, being a bride is the one time you get to wear a train.

    So, hive...what do you think? Is the non-train a deal-breaker to you?Keep in mind, it will be ordered in white.Let me know!

    (edited to add:  I'm considering wearing this dress as my wedding gown, not for the bridesmaids to wear.  Just in case my rambling didn't make complete sense!)

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    Ms. Guava-Tini    October 10, 2009   Miami, Florida

    I think its really pretty & fitting. If you want to glam it up a bit more consider adding a brooch or sash w/ brooch. The color is really nice - but also consider the season/weather  during your wedding & whether that fabric would be too heavy or hot for some bridesmaids. But your wedding is inside - so that probably doesnt matter.

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    I think this dress will make a beautiful wedding dress.  It almost calls to mind the Augusta Jones Tia.  I would not even sweat the train thing.  There are so many other fun accessories you can have!  (And besides, many girls chop their train off to begin with.  (It is kind of a pain).

    One comment to keep in mind.  You say church wedding, and the V in the front is a little bit, well, vee-ey.  Make sure that you are comfortable with how it lays or make sure that it can be altered so that you will be comfortable.  You don't want to have to be thinking about the girls on your wedding day!

     
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    Miss Snowflake    August 8, 2009   Columbia, MO

    I didn't vote, because there wasn't a "It's great, but you still have a year left, so keep looking!" I think this style of BM dress will always be around because it's so classic, but at the same time, you did say you wanted a train... plus with a church wedding/ballroom reception, I think something a little more formal would be nice.

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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I don't think you need a train for it to be a wedding dress. In fact, I'm getting frustrated at all the trains I'm encountering because I don't want one at all! The dress is lovely, and if you feel comfortable in it I think it's a good choice, with or without a train. :)

     
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    Jenniphyr    February 2, 2013   Alberta, Canada

    Beautiful dress! =) As a fellow bride who's planning on not having a train, I wouldn't worry about it; if you really want that train effect, you could get a cathedral-length veil.

     
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    Chela429    3/29/09   Long Island, NY

    here are a couple of similar dresses:

    EHelp!  Need opinions, if you would be so kind. :  wedding Demi Primary

    Enzoani - Demi

     

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    Maggie Sottero- Layne

     

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    Sottero & Midgley - Style No. JSM1244

     

     

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    Erindesmar    October 17, 2009   Boston, MA

    I am with MsSnowflake!  Beautiful dress but you still have a year.  That BM dress will likely be around (or you can find out when it is planned to be discontinued).  I say keep looking with an eye towards the style of the BM dress.  I bet you will find something!

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    mambinki    October 17, 2009   Seattle, WA

    I really like it and if you feel like it fits well and love it, then you should go for it (and it is in your price range too!).  That you feel comfortable and beautiful in it is THE MOST important thing.  I am not wearing a train wedding dress either and prefer not to! 

    I think it looks great! 

     
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    pacos    February 14, 2009   California

    I love it. I don't really like too much beading or too much laces. If you added your accessories, it'll look better. 

     
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    LeiAnn    May 2009   Florida

    I think it looks great on you and as you said it's a great way to save money. I don't think the lack of train is an issue but that's really something you have to decide for yourself. The only thing I'd say is that for my tastes it's just a tad too plain. I think you could probably have a seamstress add some jewels or perhaps a bit of lace at the top as in the pics Chela posted for relatively little cost and it would give it a little something more. Plus, once you have a veil or hair flowers or whatever, your jewelry, and the dress in white it'll look much more bridal-y. I doubt anyone would even know. 

     
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    TheDivineMissE    October 24, 2009   Eugene, OR

    I love it! Do you really need a train? It's one of the things I was set on, but you could feel differently. It looks great on you. good luck!

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    cbowers06    9-5-09   Upstate NY

    Who makes this dress? Do you have the style #? I am looking for a dress similar to this too! I think you look great in it!

     
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    littlebug    5/30/2010   MA

    What a great dress! It looks so good on you. Unless you are upset about the idea of not having a train, I think it's totally fine to not have one. I agree with the above people that said adding a sash or brooch would dress it up more if you're worried about it not looking "bride" enough. Generally, at a wedding, wearing a fancy white dress is usually bridal enough! ;) Congrats on finding such a great dress at such a great price!

     
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    eloping    May 23, 2010  

    i think the dress is gorgeous so i think you should buy it AND keep looking for another dress :)

     

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    msbuttons    May 30, 2010   Palm Harbor, FL

     I think the dress is very pretty; flattering for your body type as well!  But...

     I'm in agreement with some of the others; you have more time to look, and as long as that dress will likely be in the store for a few more months, I'd keep on the hunt!  Perhaps this sounds blunt...but if you are questioning it at all, it might not really be "the dress."  I'd see what else you could possibly find!

     
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    As far as not having a train goes, I say do whatever you want! My dress has a train and I am having it removed since it is a pain in the arse and my weddings going to be outside, so who wants to drag their dress thru the grass? The dress itself is beautiful but i tend to agree with the other posters that since you have so much time, I would wait a bit and keep looking before buying the dress...good luck and keep us posted on what you decide!

     
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    amysue    6/6/09  

    Love it! I had a train and wished that I didn't -- it just didn't bustle up as high as I wanted, and it got in the way of my dancing all night long.

     
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    sminerva21    September 26, 2009   Chicago, IL/wedding in Upstate, NY

    I don't think you'll miss the train,  honestly. I'm not married yet, but I ended up purchasing a bridal gown last year with a train, and ended up not using it and purchasing a BM dress in white that was more my style (and that I could wear again to boot!). When I started to put the old dress back on to take pictures and try  to sell it, the train annoyed the crap out of me. I was SO relieved I wouldn't have to deal with it on my wedding day. Think about it: what's the point of a train? Yeah, you feel very glam, but you only use it for the pictures and ceremony (so maybe a couple of hours). You sound like you sincerely love the BM dress, and it looks incredibly beautiful on you. Go for it!

    Purchasing a BM dress as my wedding dress was the best thing I did. I saved a ton (well, once I sell the old one) and I truly love it.

     
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    Grey56    10/10/09   RI

    It looks like my dress!  Which is a 2Be dress and not pictured anywhere on the internet, grr.  But it looks a lot like Augusta Jones Tia, Alfred Angelo's 1148, and Justin Alexander's 8385, 

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    KatNC    11/21/09  

    I like the idea of a veil train. Be creative with your accessories!

     
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    mkat88    6/19/09   Long Island, NY

    I think that it is a great dress but you are absolutely correct, we only get to wear a wedding dress once!  I agree with most other bees that have posted, keep looking but defintitely don't forget about this dress!  It might be a little less stressful knowing that you always have a fall back!  It may make dress shopping more enjoyable.  Good luck!

     
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    Mermaid1082    September 4, 2010   St Louis, MO

    I think it's lovely, but I am in the "you have time so you don't need to decide yet" camp.  Do you have to have a train to be a bride?  No.  If you wanted even a small one, I am willing to bet they could add one for you depending on the designer.

     

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    cbowers06    9-5-09   Upstate NY

    Does anyone know who the designer is for this dress? Is it Watters and Watters? I would love to look into it myself!

     
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    MrsWoohoo    01/02/09   Bay Area, CA

    Oh... I think this one's a matter of preference. I can say that it does look nice, but for me, I knew I wanted a train. My friend bought her dress (on sale) even before she was engaged (about a year in advance) and she had some regret about not having a train. But she made due and looked beautiful! I'd say it's up to you and how much you value it.

     
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    I think it's perfect!  If you won't miss having a train (which will save you even more $ because you won't have to pay for a bustle!) I say go for it!  I was really tempted to buy a bridesmaid dress from Melissa Sweet because they are SO much cheaper!  This dress looks great on you!

     
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    frenchfries    June 18, 2010  

    Thanks for the advice, everyone!  :)  I really appreciate it.  I'm going to keep this one in mind, but keep looking for now -- like everyone said, I do have a year until the wedding.  I do think this one is a tough one to beat, though! 

    For those that asked about the designer: it's a WToo (Watters & Watters bridesmaids line), style no: 451. 

     

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