HELP! Need some help with a wedding emotional subject

posted 3 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
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2150 posts
Buzzing bee

Nikkimcq:  I think just the table with her bouquet and the info for donations for the walk would be best.

Simple, but lovely (and not funeral like)

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Nikkimcq:  I just wanted to say I’m sorry for your loss. I totally understand breaking into tears when you talk about her, and I don’t undertsnad how anyone could make you feel that’s not normal. It is totally normal to be emotional when the thought of her comes to mind. It will for some time. Gradually, over time, your heart will replace the hurt with good memories of her and the pain will lessen.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. As for how to remember her, I agree with the previous post – keep it nice and simple.

Also, one thing that I did to make me feel closer to my grandpa, the day after the wedding I brought my wedding bouquet to his grave. That way it felt like he got to share it with me at least a little bit. If your friend is resting somewhere nearby, perhaps you could bring her bouquet to her the day after your wedding?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Nikkimcq: Well, I think you’re doing the right thing trying to maintain a balance. It really is a very delicate situation. In my case, I initially planned to bring my bouquet to grandpa directly after the ceremony, but grandma asked me to hold off until the day after – just because she was afraid I would get too sad. I decided to do this partly out of respect for her, but also for the other guests. I think I would have been able to keep it together, but there are no guarantees when it comes to missing our loved ones and I didn’t want to burden everyone else with my grief.

So, while I full heartedly support commemorating loved ones, I think it’s important to keep it relatively simple, in the sense that our loved ones would have wanted us to be happy on our wedding day. Remember them, but not mourn, if that makes sense. We also added a line to our ceremony programs; I’ll attach a photo in case you’re interested:

It reads: We remember… Regretfully, some of our loved ones are no longer with us. You are here in our hearts, now and forever.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Nikkimcq:  I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. I too lost a best friend (It will be 2 years in August). It was very sudden and unexpected. I think the table idea sounds lovely. I had a woman on etsy make a “charm” with a picture of her that I am going to attach to my bouquet so she is with me as I walk down the aisle. Again, hugs to you and I know what you are going through. 

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