(Closed) HELP!! Need tips on cutting cost…

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll: Go with FI's Idea to pay for hotel and Airfare
    Yes, Pay for Hotel & Airfare : (1 votes)
    4 %
    No, Just pay for hotels : (17 votes)
    65 %
    Other : (8 votes)
    31 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think paying for the hotels for guests is overly generous.  If I had to travel for a wedding, I would understand I need to budget for a hotel.  Also, not sure where in VA you are, but hotels get expensive around here, and you could easily drop several thousand dollars on that alone.  I also don’t think you can dictate when people fly in; that’s not fair to people who may want to make it a vacation, 

    Post # 4
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    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I’m not sure how many guests you were thinking about inviting and how many are out of town guests, but weddings are expensive enough as it is. Adding in airfare AND hotel for your guests, you’ll be at your 25k budget before you know it!

    I think you and your FI definitely need to sit down and agree on a budget. I think paying for one night of the hotel room is already more than enough. If people want to come in earlier or stay longer they can pay for the room themselves.

    Post # 5
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    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Wow, you two are very generous! I have traveled to friends/family weddings before, but I have never had them offer to pay! I wish we were able to do that for our wedding guests too, but our budget won’t allow for it.  We are offering our guest bedrooms at our house, but that’s it 🙂

    Post # 6
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    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Are you sure you can afford to do that and stay in your 25k budget? Weddings are very expensive as is, so I can’t imagine paying for hotel and airfare for the guests on top of that.

    Post # 7
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    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    At most, I would offer to pay for one night at the hotel (actually I would never do this, but this seems like a good compromise to me). I don’t think you should be dictating when people fly in and I don’t think anyone is going to expect you to pay for their flight.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Personally, if I were a guest, I don’t prefer to fly in the day of the wedding.  I’d rather pay for my own airfare to get there at least 1 day before so I can get settled and relax a bit before the craziness of getting dressed up and being there on time, especially if it’s a city I’m not familiar with and need to drive anywhere to get to the venue(s).

    Post # 10
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    1239 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    maybe just pay a small credit to everyones room, or pay for another meal.  I agree with other people above, i have been to DWs before and never expected the bride & groom to pay for my hotel. 

    Post # 11
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    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I went through this line of thought as well and in the end, we could not afford to pay for a wedding and for everyone. So we went DW far away, instead of where we live and they travel to us. So what we have done is negogiate deals from hotels, and if people are flying together, group airfare rates. By doing this, we have saved everyone at least a few hundred dollars. I think it is extremly generous of you to pay for the hotels. It adds up.

     

    Post # 12
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    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think the wedding cost will pile up and you’ll be happy you went the traditional route and left guests to pay for their own accomodations and travel.

    Post # 13
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    207 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I don’t think you really need to pay for hotels or airfare. As a guest, I would expect to be paying for those things myself. But since you had planned it anyway, paying for hotel rooms is extremely generous of you so I don’t think paying for flights is necessary. 

    Post # 14
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    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think that’s very generous but it also becomes tricky, as a guest I wouldn’t want to fly in that morning and I may want to stay later. So you paying for the room would make it tricky for me to have the trip I want. I think you hosting meals is a much more generous and classy alternative. I also think you can give amazing oot bags to your guests and provide transportation. Where in Virginia is your wedding?

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