- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
It has recently been brought to my attention that one of our groomsmen has been talking negatively about my fiance and I behind our backs. He and my fiance have been friends for awhile but I wouldn’t say that he’s always been a great friend. He has a history of this behavior, both with us and others. Everyone knows he is like this and uses the excuse ‘it’s just his personality’. My fiance asked him to be a groomsmen when they were on the ‘upswing’ of their friendship. It has since taken a turn for the worst, and they haven’t even spoken in a couple of months. This last incident really was the straw that broke the camel’s back, so to speak. We came to the realization that we only want people in our wedding who truly WANT to be there and care about us both as individuals and a couple. Now comes the difficult part of letting him know. It is especially difficult since he doesn’t know that we found out what he was saying about us. PLEASE HELP! Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? We understand that this will compromise (and probably ruin) our friendship, but he’s really not being a true friend anyway. My fiance and I really don’t like confrontation but we realize we need to take care of this situation.