Help needed – how do I go about this??

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BruinBeeMPH:  So he hasn’t actually proposed yet? If we had announced we were getting married before a proposal, everyone would have asked us where the ring is and how did he propose. 

Post # 4
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757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@solidarity:  agree

 

I’m not really sure what you’re asking.  Do they dislike your FI? Are you just waiting for a ring? Deciding not to do a ring? Tell us more so we can help!

Post # 5
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1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@BruinBeeMPH:  My DH and I planned our wedding before he formally proposed too. I would recommend waiting until the formal proposal before telling anyone. No one too us seriously until then.

Right now, just start looking at wedding timelines, figuring out what season and what date you want, who you want in your bridal party, and if you want a larger or small wedding.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@BruinBeeMPH:  okay- I hear you! I’d say it just like that! That you’ve agreed to get engaged, but you don’t want a ring.  I’m sure they’ll be thrilled 🙂 An engagement is an agreement between two people, not a sparkly ring on a finger.  Good Luck!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We also planned before there was any “official” proposal… because there never was one. We had discussed getting married many times, until during one such discussion we mutally decided we would pick a date and start planning. And that was that. We’re both very practical people. and this is what worked for us. 

 

As for telling your mom… just go ahead and blurt it out. “So, I have some news….. FI & I are getting married!”  If they like him well enough, I don’t see what the problem will be in telling them. They should be happy for you.

Post # 9
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Newbee

Tell them you are engaged! They may be surprised that you aren’t getting engaged in a more formal way, but I’m sure they will be happy to share in your joy.

Post # 12
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BruinBeeMPH:  It sounds like you guys had the EXACT same conversation we did.  I had to convince my FI that I didn’t need or even want an e-ring, that I thought it was a ridiculous waste of money that we could put to better use… like a honeymoon, or really anything other than some glitter for my finger.  He felt awkward about it for the first little while, but eventually he got used to the idea.

What about telling your mom over the phone? That might make you feel a bit less nervous about it.  

Post # 14
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@BruinBeeMPH:  Awesome! Congrats to both of you, and have fun planning your day!

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