- 5 years ago
My boyfriend and I have been dating 6 years. I know we will be engaged in the next month. Long story short, he has only one living grandparent, and he hasn’t spoken with her directly in the entire time we’ve been dating. Said Grandmother is aware of me and has heard things about me through SO’s Mom, but that’s it. Boyfriend recently got in contact with his Grandmother, and we are both supposed to go to her house and take her to lunch this Saturday. I am SO nervous because my boyfriend has told me that she MAY be rude to me. Turns out the reason they haven’t spoken in so long is due to his moms strained relationship with this grandma (her ex MIL).
So, how do I be less nervous, and how do I react if she is rude, nasty, etc. really NO clue what to expect, but due to ED past and being super sensitive! I am terrified she will comment that I’m ugly, not good enough for SO, or overweight (which I’m not really but extremely sensitive about my weight).
Ugh! This stinks, I’m so nervous! Help!
ETA: boyfriend didn’t even mention to his grandma that I was coming with him, amd he says she will just expect me. It is super important to my boyfriend that I go with him and getting out of it is not an option, and besides that I’d really like to meet this relative who I may or may not see again (we are moving away from her soon).