Post # 1
We’ve been engaged for a few months and are in the beginning stages of planning. Thanks to a lot of bees help we have started a guest list, budget and are on to looking at venues. The more and more pictures I look at of venues set up for weddings the less I feel like having a “traditional” wedding. I do imagine a huge church wedding in my floor length gown with a beautiful veil… but aside from that I don’t think I like any other cookie-cutter wedding traditions following. I don’t want a head table during the reception; I want to eat at the same table with my parents and FI’s parents and my brothers. I don’t want a huge cake, I would love spending time with my nieces (more than likely going to make up my whole “wedding party”) and mom staying up late making and decorating cupcakes. I can’t visually picture my FI having to stay in a stuffy tux all day, probably not a suit either. I’ve voiced before in a post about budgets– that if it were up to me we’d get married and have a huge bbq with our family and friends, I guess I would look kind of silly in my wedding dress sitting on a picnic table. =) Kind of hard for me to get started with wedding planning because every book I pick up is only for traditional or formal weddings, most online sites only have stories and testimonials of brides showing off their matchy-matchy bridesmaid dresses, and that’s just not me. Is this just a phase I am going through or should I ditch the books and go with what I am more comfortable with? If so, where do I begin starting to plan a more casual laidback, with only a touch of tradition type of wedding/reception? Anyone have any ideas of where to look to have more of an offbeat wedding south sub of Chicago? Thanks. <3
Post # 3
Of course you should do whatever you’re comfortable with! Check out fewer books and more wedding blogs. There are TONS of unique, BBQ weddings out there!
Post # 4
Offbeat Bride offers tons of inspiration for things like that. There are lots of us who just want to have a fun party without all the glam. I’d be thrilled with a pulled pork sandwich lunch wedding reception. Is there someone’s house you could have it in? Or a B&B? An old historical house nearby? The zoo? A museum? You could also do an outdoor reception in a park.
Post # 5
Bump! I too want to have something laid back. I’m considering a brew pub for the location 🙂
Post # 6
I don’t know about the suburbs, but if I lived in Chicago I’d want to have my wedding reception on the roof deck of The Wit Hotel at State and Lake. It’s a really great balance of laid back (as it is, after all, a cocktail lounge/bar and not a formal reception hall) and elegant (it’s a gorgeous space). I have no idea what they charge, but I do know they do their own catering and I’ve eaten in the hotel’s restaurants many times and never a bad meal. It is a very trendy hotspot late at night so if you want to check it out, you may want to pop in during happy hour or early evening, before it gets crazy packed. I would imagine if you booked it for an event, they’d close it to the public so don’t let the “trendy hotspot” put you off.
The ceiling/roof is glass so you get just the most amazing view from up there, and their decor is all dark woods, and deep green plants.
This hotel is a Hilton brand so anyone looking to do a booking there, make sure you try to negotiate for some extra Hilton points, especially if you’re expecting a larger guest room block. Hotels will often throw several thousand points (or more) on top of your package, especially if you book during the off-season.
Post # 7
@BrandNewBride: Thanks for the encouragement!
@bowsergirl: I just found OffBeatBride yesterday… I was overwhelmed with how much info is on that site. I will have to keep searching to find a location…
@MsSunshineBee: I hope we both find the perfect spot to hold our receptions!
@fishbone: Sounds amazing, but I am trying to stay out of the city.
Post # 8
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Post # 9
Try Fox Ballet Event Centre in St Charles. They just opened, you can use your own cater or theres and I beleive you can bring your own drinks. Thats pretty different
Post # 10
@Patsy23: oh I totally get what you are saying! You should do what YOU and your FI want to do…this is YOUR DAY and not for everyone else..I am doing non traditional and basically whatver WE WANT…my parents think I am a little nutty but have accepted it all now and are kinda enjoying what I am planning..hopefully this will be your only wedding day EVER so please do what you both want instead of what is the norm:)