Post # 1
We’ve been engaged for a few months and are in the beginning stages of planning. Thanks to a lot of bees help we have started a guest list, budget and are on to looking at venues. The more and more pictures I look at of venues set up for weddings the less I feel like having a “traditional” wedding. I do imagine a huge church wedding in my floor length gown with a beautiful veil… but aside from that I don’t think I like any other cookie-cutter wedding traditions following. I don’t want a head table during the reception; I want to eat at the same table with my parents and FI’s parents and my brothers. I don’t want a huge cake, I would love spending time with my nieces (more than likely going to make up my whole “wedding party”) and mom staying up late making and decorating cupcakes. I can’t visually picture my FI having to stay in a stuffy tux all day, probably not a suit either. I’ve voiced before in a post about budgets– that if it were up to me we’d get married and have a huge bbq with our family and friends, I guess I would look kind of silly in my wedding dress sitting on a picnic table. =) Kind of hard for me to get started with wedding planning because every book I pick up is only for traditional or formal weddings, most online sites only have stories and testimonials of brides showing off their matchy-matchy bridesmaid dresses, and that’s just not me. Is this just a phase I am going through or should I ditch the books and go with what I am more comfortable with? If so, where do I begin starting to plan a more casual laidback, with only a touch of tradition type of wedding/reception? Thanks. <3
Post # 3
You sound like a “style me pretty” bride! I think you should check out that site immediately for some ideas. If you want to keep it casual but still be a wedding, they have some amazing pictures to look at.
Post # 4
You could also try Offbeat Bride for less traditional weddings. Do what you’re comfortable and will be happy with!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Girl, you can do whatever you and your FI want! It’s your day, and I think the options are limitless. My husband and I are very laid-back, untraditional people, so we used our wedding as an opportunity to show our friends and family what we’re all about. We love BBQ more than fancy chicken or beef dishes, so we served BBQ with a mashed potato bar, and it was a huge hit. We don’t really like cake, so we hired an ice cream truck – and again, everyone talked about it for a long time after the wedding. We are outdoorsy people and wanted to get married outside under the trees, so we held our whole ceremony and reception outdoors, and it was very romantic, especially when the sun went down and all the trees were lit up with little lights. I didn’t care if my bridesmaids matched, and I let them pick out their own shoes and dresses – and they were really happy and looked beautiful.
I say, ditch the books, and find inspiration from wedding blogs and from your own ideas (sounds like you already have a lot of ideas of your own!). I spent a lot of time on Ruffled, Green Wedding Shoes, 100 Layer Cake, Junebug Weddings, and Offbeat Bride… Maybe you’ll find some inspiration from those blogs.
Also: I think you should read “A Practical Wedding.” It’s very short and won’t take you any time at all to read, but it will help you feel justified and secure in your decisions to skip wedding traditions and do things your own way. A ton of other bees have also gotten a lot out of that book, I would highly recommend it.
P.S. When we were doing premarital counseling, our pastor told us that all you NEED to get married is vows. That’s it. Everything else is a bonus. Start with that, and build on it with your own ideas. Instead of filling out some kind of checklist, we planned our wedding from the ground up, and it was a huge success.
Post # 6
It’s your wedding, go ahead and wear your wedding dress to a backyard bbq! I am having a catered backyard wedding and I will also be in a wedding dress. I think it’ll make for great pictures.
Post # 7
@GoldenWeddingPlanners: wow… lots and lots of pics on that site!! How has this little gem never popped up in any of my searches? Thank you!
@Mrs. Wallaby: Thanks! =) Okay ditching all the books and cashing it in for the one you recomended. I want to see pics from your wedding please! And and ice cream truck, ha, I love that!!! I am jealous of your Texas location.. here in Chicago it’s so hard to plan the wedding of my dreams.
@MRSsrm85: Thanks for the advice! I hope you post pictures of your wedding too, I would love to see them.
Post # 8
Well I don’t know how many guests you have but also check out intimateweddings.com they have a lot less traditional weddings highlighted on there as well
Post # 9
@Mrs. Wallaby: I TOTALLY agree with everything you said. Word on the blogs, I love those blogs.
Def untraditional bride over here and I am excited to show people what we are all about ;p
Post # 10
offbeatbride is a bit overwhelming. Like jumping from one extreme to another. My nerves have all calmed with in just a few clicks. Cant thank you bees enough for helping find the perfect guide for me!