Post # 1
We are going for just one piece of paper, no reception cards or other business in the envelope. RSVPs will be through email in there. We’re mostly trying to figure out the bottom half with the actual info in there, and find the fine line of too much vs. too little information, without looking crowded.
1) Do we need to put the street address of the college (which is all considered one street address though it is huge – like 15 Main St, but every bulding on the whole huge campus is all 15 Main St) or can we just say “Nerdy College” in leiu of a street address? If you’re using a GPS, it will find it, and we’ll have a map and directions on the back. But is there any reason that will lead to more confusion or seem like a lack of information?
2) Do we need to put the RSVP BY DATE n there? It makes it a bit crowded, but the alternative is to put it in big font on the landing page of our website. So if we left it off, people would only know the deadline if they went to our website. Is that leaving too much to chance?
3) Do we need to preface our wedding website address with “more details at….” or should just throwing the website on there be good enough?
I think we won’t write out the whole date, because that’s another extra line and looks worse, though sounds fancier. Good thing our event isn’t too formal.
Fancy wording you’re invited to the wedding of
Saturday, June 31, 2013
One o’clock in the afteroon
St. Happy Chapel
Afternoon reception to follow
Please RSVP by May 15
to RSVPHERE @ email.com
www .girlandboywedding. com
Post # 3
If the college is impossible to get wrong, I think it’s fine to omit the street address. Often big places like that have entrances off several streets, so the official street address isn’t always the most useful anyway.
Yes I think you need an RSVP date. That needs to be “in people’s faces” on the invite. (Otherwise, how do they know when to go onto the website to RSVP?) Also, if not everyone is computer literate, you might consider having at least a phone number as well.
I think you only need “more details at” if there is essential information at the web site. My reading of the invitation, as it stands, is that the website is just for RSVP.
p.s. I assume this is just an example because June only has 30 days!
Post # 4
@paula1248: You caught me! I wanted to put a completely fictional date that people might not notice – but you did it! =)
The RSVPs will be via email. There are going to be a few computer illiterate guests, but I’m talking 1 or 2 dear elderly folk who I will be calling personally.
The website will have plenty more information, at least for those travelling away from home to attend, hotels, details on what to expect/wear comfortable dress because there is no AC, better directions, registry should they choose to bring a gift, all that good stuff. So it’s a great supplement but defintley seperate from the RSVP.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I think you have exactly what you need on there. The only thing that concerns me is the afternoon reception thing. I would specify what that is so that guests know whether or not they should bring their appetites
Post # 6
1. It’s not customary to include the address. In this day and age, everyone just does a maps search anyway.
2. Yes, you should have an “RSVP by” date. I don’t think it’s enough to just include it on the website. You’ll thank yourself later when you have fewer responses to chase down. DO NOT write “please RSVP.” The SVP in RSVP is French for “please,” so adding another “please” is redundant.
3. The website is enough. You don’t need a “More details here,” as it will clutter up an already long invite.
I’m a huge etiquette stickler, but I think it’s creative and green to put everything onto one page and do RSVPs by email.
Post # 7
@MeiFrancis: Maybe I should just keep it straightforward and get rid of the “afternoon” bit? It’s just a normal reception (cocktail hour, hors d’oeuvre, then a meal, cake etc). Only difference is that it’s at an earlier time than the typical evening reception.
Post # 8
@somethingaquamarine: Yes, I realized the Please RSVP issue and already changed it on my template, phew! That would be so embarassing for someone with years of French training.
Post # 9
@somethingaquamarine: “ In this day and age, everyone just does a maps search anyway.”
I don’t (if it matters, I’m in my 40s). In this case (a huge college) it’s not necessary, but for a small park or church it is.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@lazy: I would definitely just get rid of afternoon then. The way it’s written with “afternoon” makes me think that I’ll be getting lunch and a mimosa, and then I’ll be sent on my way. If it’s listed as a reception, I will expect to stay a lot longer.
Post # 11
@paula1248: I’m just curious: how do you know where you are going if you are not using Google maps? Do all of the wedding invitations you receive come with map inserts as well (and do you actually use them to navigate your way to the ceremony location)?
ETA: While you may not use Google maps to get places, I still stand by my statement that most people do. Even my mom and FMIL use it, and they’re not particularly tech-savvy. I do agree with you that obscure locations should come with addresses. I once showed up to the wrong hotel for a wedding because there were two of that particular chain in that town.
Post # 12
I’m no help with wording, but what about using double sided invites? That way you can include as much info as you want and just split the info in between the front and the back.
Post # 13
@somethingaquamarine: I pull out my trusty (paper) street directory and look it up in there. Unless it’s a country location, most invitations I receive do not include a map. An address like “St John’s church, 17 South Road, Richmond” is sufficient.
In the last year or two we’ve taken to checking addresses on google maps on a pc before going anywhere. But I can’t take that with me in my car. Unlike DH and me, our teenage / young adult kids all have GPS on their phones, but they (the kids) are not very good at giving directions. (Text friend, listen to music, “Oh we were meant to turn at X street”)
Post # 14
Luckily, we will have a map on the back of the card! But it’s going to be a fairly local one, so people will have to use common sense to figure out the rest.
One little detail we are having confusion about. When you are asking people to RSVP via email, does it make the best sense to say
RSVP by May 15 to wedding @ email.com
RSVP by May 15 at wedding @ email.com?
I can’t find any etiquette about this. But probably email RSVPs are so far beyond the realm of etiquette experts anyhow that this hasn’t been considered. =)