(Closed) Help! overwhelmed beach bride!

posted 7 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would send out the save the dates this May or June (12-11 months out) since it’s a destination wedding. However since you are only inviting 20 or so guests, I assume its all close family who already know the details and are already planning to travel, so maybe you don’t need to rush the save the dates… I’m not having a destination wedding but I sent my save the dates out 11 months from the wedding (95 of my guests live out of state, 10 out of the country).

I think it always looks nice when beach grooms and GM’s wear a white linen shirt, khakis and go barefoot. Maybe have them wear a simple yellow or orange boutinniere to tie in your colors.

I asked various bridal salons about when the right time is to order a dress, the few that I have asked said it takes 6-8 months to order a dress. So you might want to start shopping in May or June. I ordered my dress 11 months before the wedding.

Hope that helps a bit


Post # 5
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Their are websites that have checklists of what to do each month before your wedding. they really help you keep everything in perspective. I use weddingwire.com for that. You can even add things to the list or delete them depending on what you need.

I would send your STD’s out pretty earlier, because it is a destination wedding. I’m havng a beach wedding too and our men are wearing grey pants, possibly grey jeans, a white button up shirt, and a matching grey vest.

Post # 6
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

for the guys, i got beige linen suits off here for AMAZING prices.  www.studiosuits.com

for Save-The-Date Cards, send them out at least 7 – 9 months in advance,

feel free to get your dress now, but since you have so much time, take your TIME and do NOT buy a dress on the same day you find. wait, think about it, sleep on it. it wont go anywhere.  lol, i feel strongly about this because i bought my first dress at the first store i went to on the same day….then later had major regret and sold it!

as for right, just keep an open list to add to any ideas you have that you want to incorporate. thats what i did. eventually it all comes to together. i made lots and lots of lists. of wedding party, wedding ideas, wedding to do, wedding music, everything.

Post # 7
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hello kellyj23 and congrats on your upcoming wedding…

I would send save the dates out at least 10-12 months in advance. This will give your guests time to save for a vacation and think about other arrangements that need to be made. We did save the dates 10 months out and created a wedding website. Every few weeks we sent out an email blast to our guests letting them know of things happening and facts about our resort and Jamaica. It was a real hit!

As for the guys, I’ve heard good things about studiosuits.com. We ended up getting my FI’s suit from Macy’s. They had a spring sale. Smile

Feel free to look around and try on dresses.  Just don’t buy a dress now and change your mind later, LOL! 

As for other things, make lists and get your thoughts together on how you want the day to go. I would wait til closer to the wedding date to buy things for your guests and favors. I say this because I looked around like a mad woman for unique favors, Out of Town bags, etc. and all our guests backed out at the last minute. I’m grateful I didn’t spend any more money on anything except invitations.

Happy planning!!!

Post # 8
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

As the others have said, I would send your save the dates out in the next month or so – that way your guests have plenty of time to start planning/saving!

Most wedding dress shops will tell you should allow 6-8 months for your dress, but it all depends on what brand your dress is. I ordered my dress in August, it came in at the end of January, and then I had two months to make alterations.  I would start looking whenever you’re ready – it may take  4 days or 4 months to find the right one!

We just got married in Punta Cana two weeks ago – I wore a regular wedding dress, he wore a long sleeve white shirt with cuffs rolled up, tan linen pants, and sandals – and he looked so handsome! 🙂  Our best man wore the same thing, just with a more plain white shirt (my husband’s shirt had some embroidery on it). They both wore hot pink bouttonieres to tie them in with our hot pink and orange color scheme, and it looked great!


Good luck with your planning – we absolutely loved our DW!!

Post # 9
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

When should I send out my save the dates? As soon as possible. For destination weddings that take time to make arrangements and save money, it’s good to give your guests as much time as possible.

Also suggestions on what my Fiance should wear? My first instinct is a tan or linen suit, however, it sort of depends on how casual your dress will be. If your dress is super beachy, then I think he can get away with tan pants and a button-up white or linen shirt.

Is it to soon to get my dress? Should I wait? I would wait just because you’ll be looking at dresses for a long time and it’s easy to get dress envy. You don’t want to change your mind after you’ve already ordered your dress. A lot of girls find themselves in that situation.

Post # 11
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@andilynn09: hey are you wearing Jenna by maggie?  that was my dress for my destination wedding in jamaica 2 weeks ago! gorgeous pics!

Post # 12
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Thanks, ladies! Yes, that is Jenna by Maggie Sottero for my dress – I did chop the train though, and have all the layers in the back made into equal lengths to be more travel and beach friendly.  Love th Jenna!  Good luck, kellyj23!

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