Post # 1
Okie dokie…I admit up-front that I am an idiot and the whole “28 days” thing escaped my mind when thinking about my period/honeymoon/wedding planning.
My fiance and I don’t want to use the birth control pill, and will be using the fertility awareness method instead. That was fine and dandy with me until I started my period yesterday, 4 days earlier than anticipated. When talking with a friend last night about the whole 28 days thing, I realized I am now schedule to start ON MY WEDDING DAY in less than 2 months.
I’d really like to know what options I have, other than messing with birth control, which is all I can seem to find info about. Anyone have any other ideas of how to start my period early so I can be done in time for the wedding/honeymoon? Any old wives tricks, or brilliant ideas otherwise?
I’m a virgin and really want the wedding night and honeymoon to be special – not a messy affair. PLEASE help.
Post # 3
Oh bummer. I have the same situation happening here. We are getting married September 5 and going to Mexico on the 9th. I’m scheduled to start on the 5th. 🙁 I got birth control to change it, I don’t really know of any other way, but I’d like to know if you find out.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I bumped mine using BC pills, which I’ve been on for a quite some time now. 🙁 Can you call you OB/GYN to ask about what options you might have?
Post # 5
Just a warning, BC usually takes about 3 to 4 months to regulate your body. So you might not be able to use that method.
Before I started taking BC, stress used to knock me out of whack, and I used to be fairly regular. With wedding plan there is no lack of stress, so maybe next month it will switch on you again.
Post # 6
Are you charting your cycle? If you are planning to use FAM you need to be writing this stuff down to get a handle on your basic pattern. You may not have a 28-day cycle, so counting out 28-day increments might not be appropriate for you.
NSAIDs (non-streroidal anti-inflammatory drugs, like Aleve and Ibuprofen) can impact the severity and duration of your period. So you might not be able to move it without hormones, but you may be able to mitigate how bad it is.
Post # 7
I was unaware that you could change your cycle without hormonal intervention.
If you don’t believe in BC, you might be up a creek without a paddle. But, if you are OK using it to deter your period, a shot is typically the most effective way to stop your period asap. Unless of course your uterine lining has built up enough, then, no matter how many hormones are in, sometimes it just has to shed itself. Or, it can also get so thin it just sheds all the time.
Good luck. As far as I know, stress is a major factor in periods. But, if you delay your actual period and you are actually ovulating, you could get false readings.
Your OBGYN might have some tricks, but I’m not aware of any. Condoms would be less messy, but then again, I think those are in the same category as birth control if you are Catholic. Depending on your flow, it really COULD be a big messy thing, too. Take caution; you don’t want your bed to look like a crime scene. Sorry if that’s TMI, but I get really self conscious about what housekeepers see of my bedding and with as heavy of a period that I have. Once i started in my sleep and bled all over my sheets and i was SO embarassed. =(
Post # 8
If you’ve been keeping track of your periods regularly, try this site:
It helps you determine the variations you may have. For example, I vary anywhere from 28 to 35 days and I make extra notes during the month and find that months that I frequently mark “stressful” days tend to be the months in which im at 34-35 days.
Might not be much of a help so close to your wedding, unless you actually remember or have written down details.
Post # 9
I use FAM because BC pills scares the heck out of me. I used to think my schedule was irregular, then I realized that it was just longer than the “average.” So it would occur a little later in the month every month, moving all over the calendar as time went on. Write down the day you got your period and start counting, you may be pleasantly surprised!
Don’t worry. Even if it’s a little messy, it will still be special! You’ve got the rest of your lives for that sort of thing, after all. 😉
(BTW, you can wait 2-3 days until the heavy flow is over, then put a towel down. Less mess, easy clean up.)
Post # 10
Thanks, ladies 🙂
@Starburst – That site is helpful in figuring me out, although not-so-helpful in telling me a different date than I expected…
@ejs4y8 – Can the OB/GYN give just one shot closer to wedding time to throw my schedule off? I’m not familiar with how birth control shots work. Also, how long are the chemicals in your system then? We’re OK with condoms, so we’re already planning on doing that, but right now I’m fairly desparate to not be dealing with the actual period that week.
To make matters even more fun, I’ve never been a tampon user…Sorry if that’s too much info 🙂 For our beach adventure, that could prove to also be a major problem. *sigh* This could be a really interesting honeymoon…
Post # 11
Maybe a diaphragm could be an option…? That may be difficult to use if you’ve never been a tampon user, but you have some time to get used to it. Even if you have your period, then I believe using a diaphragm can “hold things off” for a few hours while you’re having fun…in addition to being a birth control method.
I don’t know much about birth control shots, but I would imagine that getting one just to stave off your period would not be the best idea. I would call your doctor to discuss different options.
Post # 12
Also, on the tampon front…if there’s not a medical reason you can’t use them, two months is definitely enough to get used to using them. As someone who just walked her younger sister through doing this, please feel free to PM me if you need advice :o)
Post # 13
no sure if this well be helpful or not … but I did find some articles on using meditation and positive thinking to help control your own body. You could look into that!
Post # 14
Just a heads up, but regardless of period or not, your wedding night can still be a little messy :p Many times a woman will bleed after she has sex for the first time. Not always (I didn’t), and some more than others, but it’s a possibility. For whatever reason, that’s not something I ever learned in school and took me awhile to learn, so just thought I’d throw that out there…
You can try birth control just for now. I never did the shots, but my pills regulated me from day one without any spotting or anything. If you don’t want to use hormonal birth control, you’ll just have to stick it out! I’ve heard of some “home remedies” that can change your flow, but I would be extremely cautious about trying any of them because things that mess with your body like that are often bad for you (pills on the other hand, are quite regulated). It’s just like how women will take castor oil (without a doctor or midwife’s supervision) to try to induce labor, but it causes horrible diarreaha and sometimes the baby is born way too quickly, often while the mother is USING the bathroom which is of course totally unsafe. That’s why I’m leary of home remidies that mess with the body’s functions
Post # 15
I’d definitely not do a shot right before the wedding as it can take some time to filter into your body. for me, it worked best riht after my period, when my uterus was basically empty
it’s good for 3 months unless there is a shot i’m not aware of
if this is a one time only thing definitely ask your obgyn what you can do as it’s better to start NOW than later b/c sometimes bc can make you sick and you have to switch types
Post # 16
The pill is generally more quickly reversed than the shot, and the shot has more side effects and spotting than the pill on average. Your–and everyone else’s–specific mileage with either may vary. You could start birth control pills now, take the first pack as intended with a placebo period, and then start the second pack, and keep taking active pills until the last day of your honeymoon. Although there’s no guarantee that you won’t spot, it’ll most likely work fine from day 1. I usually go months (once I even went almost two years) without a period or spotting. I never had any side effects from the pill–I love the damn things, but side effects often decrease with time, and if they’re unbearable, they would stop within days of you stopping the active pills. The shot persists in your body for at least 3-4 months.
I don’t know of any reliable non hormonal methods. You can go right back to NFP immediately after your period (which would happen a few days after your honeymoon if you stopped the last day of it), as many people regain fertility immediately (but again, your mileage may vary). The pill rocks for period control.