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When you wrote "I finally settled on one dress for a few reasons" do you actually mean that you think you settled for the dress, rather than holding out for the one you thought was perfect for you?
In terms of how it looks - it's flattering, elegant and you look beautiful in it. But, given your appearance, I suspect the same could be said of many dresses. How does it make you feel?
The dress is beautiful and it looks stunning on you. Let me ask you... "How do you FEEL in it? Is it comfortable?" That was the closer for me. Not only did I like how I looked, I LOVED how I felt in it, I was super comfortable. Even if the dress was free and looked fantastic on me, if I wasn't comfortable there's no way I'd wear it. I need to be comfortable for the 10 plus hours I'll be in it.
If you bought a dress that was totally different from what you had originally envisioned, I can totally understand why you are unsure. For what its worth, here is what I love about your dress:
Bottom line...your day, your dress. It's not about what anyone else likes. You look beautiful in that dress ... I'm sure you would look beautiful in any dress but ultimately you have to be happy with your choice.
It's tricky once you've already purchased a gown and you start to feel doubtful...but you do look happy in the photo and I'm sure you'll be happy on your wedding day in whatever you wear.
It's not really my style but it fits you nicely.
Some designers have a hard time with simplicity. Clean lines and basic pretty can sometimes fit horribly or look like a pillowcase if the designer isn't into that kind of thing.
If I were you I'd go to a different salon and try some more simple gowns and maybe bring a different mix of people and tell them your tastes ahead of time. Sometimes people glue onto you their own tastes, so even though the gown looks gorgeous it could be the opposite of what fits your style and personality.
I do <3 your dress; this style (a-line, pick-ups, beading) is my favorite. :P You look beautiful in it. But, as PP have mentioned, YOU have to love it.
You look great in this dress. If you're looking for a simplier look, maybe you could go with no veil, or a plainer one. You could also simplify your hair and make-up. I remember having 2nd thoughts about my dress too. Try to focus on other aspects of the planning and wait for the dress to come in. You might surprise yourself. Almost a year after my wedding, I still love the way I looked on my wedding day and it has less to do with my dress and more to do with my hair, make-up, shoes, and how people looked at me.
The dress looks great on you, but it sounds like you never really wanted it. Regardless of what other people want you to wear, YOU have to be happy with your dress. Not just happy - ecstatic! Can you still put the deposit toward another dress at the store? I think if you're going to change your order, it's better to do so sooner rather than later.
You look great in this dress and while you may feel that it's fancier than you originally intended, it still has a simple elegance. There's a nice amount of beading (not too much) and the pickups add a nice bit of romance without being over the top. I will reiterate what the PPs said - you should go with what makes you happy. If you are really regretting your decision, maybe you can sell it and find a new one.
Hi Kit Kat, You look so beautiful and SO happy in this dress!
Your post is almost exactly like the post I wrote a few weeks ago about my dress. I wanted something simple, but ended up with something a bit more sparkly and glamorous. After I bought the dress I was so worried that it wasn't me.
Dress shopping was far more intense (and hard!!) then I expected it to be. I really needed to let the dress sink in for a few weeks. Now I feel like the dress is really special, and the time that I shared with my mom and friends picking the dress is part of what makes this dress "my" dress. I'm excited to get to try the dress on again, and I'm starting to be able to imagine myself wearing it on my wedding day -- it's exciting!!
Your dress is beautiful - very elegant and classic. I think you made a great choice!!
You certainly do look beautiful but like many of the other bees mentioned, it's all in how you feel about/in the dress. I too bought a dress because of other peoples reactions and felt the same way you did. I did end up searching around some more and bought a dress that I loved. If you realllly feel like its not what you wanted call the store and see what their policy is, then I would say shop around and either confirm that you bought the right dress or maybe you will find "the one"
This is so true. I was uncertain of my dress after I purchased it but did have such a wonderful with my mother, aunt and sister and the excitement of the day was perfect.
It's been a few months since I purchased my dress and I now look at pictures of me in my dress and can't wait to wear it again.
It really is a beautiful dress...but it's all about how you feel in it. If it doesn't make you feel how you want to feel on your wedding day, then you should call the store and see what your options are. I was in the exact same situation as you - bought a dress that was very 'bridal' because of everyone else's reaction to it, and ended up switching my deposit to a different, more simple dress. It's completely up to you, this is your day and your dress, so I would suggest calling the store and seeing what they could do for you if you did decide you wanted a different one.
The dress looks beautiful on you and is very flattering to your figure. Before I got my girl, I was in a similar boat. I wanted a nice A-line simplistic gown. When I tried the gown on, my MOH and I were underwhelmned. When I tried on my 2nd option, which was a sheath style instead of A-line, has lace applique w/ crystal and silver beading, as well as a chiffon train, my MOH cried. I knew she was the one.
But... I didn't become teary eyed until my 1st fitting. When my seamstress had me walk around, I knew my girl was the right choice.
I believe you picked The One. Now stop looking @ other gowns and obsess about your shoes and jewelry.:)
You look beautiful (and happy!) in it! But if you don't like it, don't feel comfortable in it, or want something different, then by all means keep looking!
Thank you all for your responses :) You have made me feel so much better! It really is a hard thing to pick a dress, isn't it? I don't think I really understood that until I went shopping! I went to three salons and tried on at least 18 dresses, and all my bridesmaids were right-- the simpler gowns just weren't doing anything. ESPECIALLY when you take into the fact that the future hubby picked out his tux first and is going with a really formal look. The dress does feel wonderful when I wear it and definitely fits the style of the wedding much better. I think I made the right choice in picking this one and feel so much better with your encouragement!!
You all are truly wonderful! Thank you again :)
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Hi Bees,
I went dress shopping this past weekend and tried on at least 18 gowns. I finally settled on one dress for a few reasons:
1) People's reactions to me in this one particular gown was incredible. My mother/bridesmaids did not react this way to any other gown.
2) People's reactions to the types of gown that I wanted actually had people shaking their heads no. No one, not my mother, bridesmaid, dress consultant, random people in the store, liked my style.
3) It is a gorgeous dress-- just not what I had wanted for myself. It has the fit I wanted, but not the style.
So, I wanted a white dress that was very plain, without much beading or sparkle, that was fit through the hips and had a plain skirt-- I wanted to shine, not the dress. Every dress like that I tried on people kept telling me it wasn't bridal or too plain or just didn't look good on me - that I needed something more.
Then I tried on this dress (image below), which is clearly nothing at all what I wanted, but it received by-far the best reaction. So I bought it. Now I'm wondering that I made a bad decision and I don't know how happy I am with it.
Could you please help relieve my fears and tell me I bought the right dress?! Thanks for your help :)
