Help Please! Extra Event Add-Ons?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

kgba:  Yeah this does seem super weird to me. Almost as if they’re using you to pay for part of their vacation. They should absolutely make the wedding the priority and plan anything else they’d like to do during the other events. Or they should attend none. I’m not sure what else you can do or if it’s even worth it, but I’m commenting to bump this up to see if anyone else has some good advice!

Post # 4
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3045 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

On the one hand, he is understandably wanting to see his family. On the other hand, it is your wedding, not a mix and match your package! 

I would hope that if he is a good enough friend to invite he is a good enough friend to be honest to. ‘X, you know that I am really excited that your mom and sister will be able to see you on this trip! but I have to admit, the way they are picking and choosing events makes me feel a little weird. We had intended for the pub night to let people on both sides get to know each other a little first, and for the bus tour to also help bring the people at our wedding together- and kind of as a “thank you for comin to our wedding.” I really would prefer it if your mother and sister came to at least the wedding & reception, and to be honest, it hurts my feelings that they would skip out on what is to me the most important part of the weekend when the reason they are going to be in that town is because of the wedding.”

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