(Closed) Help Please -Guest List Growing and Venue is Small

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
46255 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Are the ceremony and reception in different rooms at the venue?

I wouldn’t start stressing out until your rsvp’s are in so you know how many guests there will be.

You could always compromise if necessary. Have a few tables for those who need to sit and place cocktail tables around the room to offer guests a place to put down their drinks. They don’t take up nearly as much room as a banquet table.

Caterers can also offer plates that come with a notch to hold your stemmed glass, to make it easier for your guests.


Post # 4
713 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We had about 25 people that couldn’t make it! I agree – wait for the RSVPs before you start stressing!

Post # 5
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

First of all, are you sure that everyone will come? Generally, the rule is to expect 10-20% of guests not to be able to attend, which would give you some breathing room.

However, if you don’t want to run the risk of being too crowded, then I think it’s totally reasonable to go back to your mom and tell her that she can’t have both. If she is the reason why your guest list is so big, and she is complaining about not having tables, then it’s her issue. Unless you feel strongly either way, let her make the decision about what she is going to compromise on for YOUR wedding.

Post # 6
2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Out of curiosity, who did your mom invite? She added 20 people, which is quite a lot.

My Fiance and I are doing family only for the ceremony and dinner (our aunts, uncles, 1st cousins) and our best friends are in our wedding party. The guest list is still at 150 😛 But maybe you could trim it that way? Or if your mom invited people that she knows but you really don’t, gently tell her that it’s your day and you’d rather keep it to your close friends and family.

If all else fails, I’ve been told to assume that only 75% will RSVP yes, so you’d come under capacity that way, most likely.

Post # 8
34 posts

My Mother is doing the same thing.  She wants to invite her friends, because she went to their daughters weddings.  But I don’t know these ladies or their daughters…  Her list was around 20 also, and she fretted terribly about her reputation if she had to trim her list to only a few ladies that I remember from my childhood, and actually none of them I have seen in over 20 years (I am 40).

My ceremony venue is also small, holds about 90.  So I am limiting the ceremony to both of our families (adds up to around 60) and a few close friends of mine and his, and their familyies.  Our reception will be around 150 so hopefully then we can accomodate everyone that doesn’t fit at the ceremony.


I agree, mixing a few seated tables and a few stand up tables would help ease the flow of traffic while still providing seating for thise that really need it.


PS I love your site, very elegant 🙂

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