[HELP] Please help me (a guy) get the perfect engagement ring.

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Honey bee

@jmt:  Hey! How exciting and good on you for doing some research. Sounds like you have some idea and know where to go so that’s a start. I am a UK bee so the size doesn’t mean much to me so can’t help you out there but maybe if she is dainty stacked bands may look a bit bulky on her.

And yes, if you took a ring to the jeweller they would be able to size it for you. Just bear in mind a ring that fits on her ring finger on her right hand may not be exactly the same size as a ring that fits on her left hand ring finger. So, if she wears a ring already on her “engagement” finger, get that measured.

I am afriad I can’t help you more than that, as like I said, UK bee and Tacori means nothing to me but I think it is lovely that you want to get her the best ring you can. She is a lucky lady! Good luck.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

I think 2ct is too big for a size 5, but that’s just my opinion. If she likes Tacori she probably like the one’s with lots of small deatails so I would go for those. The jeweler will be able to measure her other ring. Is she set on white gold? White gold has to be re-dipped every-so-often and platinum doesn’t.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

What I will say is please DON’T buy something you can’t afford or will need to struggle to buy. My FI worked damn hard to buy my ring (even though it’s only a tiny 1/4 carat) and I appreciated it, but if he’d gone and spent into his living money I’d have been pissed.

In my personal opinion, 2ct is too big. I think 1.5 would probably be more appropriate – a big thing to think about is ‘can you put a wedding ring with it?’ don’t just pick something without taking that into consideration.

Think about her as a person. Does her clothing , jewellery and general fashion come across as quite simple, or very glitzy and in-your-face? If it’s simple, she may appreciate a simple round brilliant on a plain band – but if she loves glitter, how about looking into halos, or researching vintage styles?

I recommend snopping around on Etsy for a bit. You’re bound to come away with a few ideas!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Even thought you think she “deserves” a larger ring, please don’t think that way! She deserves the ring she will love and feel most comfortable with, and for me (ring size 4.5, 5 foot 2, and simple style,) I didn’t want more than a half carat! Even if money were not object. So what kind of jewelry does hse wear? Chunky and statement? or smaller and more refined? 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@jmt:  OMG HEY HOW EXCITING! I’m 5’3″, 113 pounds, and a ring size 4. So your girl and I might be the same size.

My ring is Tacori, in your budget (but close!) and a round diamond. It’s HT 251012X. I’m OBSESSED with it. It’s the ring I explicitly told my FI I loved. I love the side work, it doesn’t stand up too high off my finger and it has a matching band.

Also, total carat weight is around 1.8. my center stone is 1.1 and the setting has .7 carats of diamonds in it. its 18K white gold.

 

 

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee

here’s my favorite!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@jmt:  2CT total carat weight, or centre stone? Centre stone it might be a bit big, TCW might be good.

 

I did a look through the Tacori site and these are my favs

http://www.tacori.com/engagement/ht251012x.html – Solitare

http://www.tacori.com/engagement/ht232612x.html – Non-Solitare

 

I like that they have the side detailing. This is another

http://www.tacori.com/engagement/ht2546rd65.html

It has a more basic band, but honestly I love the 6 prong look on a solitare, its very balanced and secure.

 

For the stacked band question: really I’d leave that up to the two of you to discuss after, you don’t need to purchase the wedding band(s) now. If you look at the third link it shows what it would look like next to a wedding band though and you could easily picture a 2nd band like that on top 🙂

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Elky:  one of your favorites is my ring! ^.^ great minds think alike!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

you sound really sweet. I don’t think you’ll be able to afford a tacori setting AND a good quality 2 ct stone in your budget. If you don’t want her to want to upgrade, walking the line between size and quality is the way to go. If you end up spending 3k on the setting and another 1k on the bands, that only leaves you with 6k for the center stone, which can get you a decent 1carat. I would go for 1, or just under (like .94) to save some more $$. Here’s my ring, I’m a 5.25, I just measured my finger and it’s 2.75 inches long for comparison. I have a center stone that’s just under 1carat, but the color and clarity are really good.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

@jmt: How exciting!  Congrats!

You can easily find her ring size here if you have one of her rings.  Make sure it is a ring that fits her ring finger though.  http://findmyringsize.com/

It’s hard to say about the size of her stone because everyone is different.  I think 2ct on a size 5 finger would look too big, but I picked a 1.25c for myself (size 6.5), and others like a 1ct on themselves.  I think 1.5c is a very good inbetween size–definitely not small, but also not obnoxiously large.

I see Tacori has 126 round settings to choose from, so you have plenty of options (http://www.tacori.com/engagement/shopby/diamond_shape_shown-round/?page=1).  Do you like the classic look of a solitaire or the trendy look of a halo?  Do you like pave, channel set, split shank, three-stone, etc?  Those types of answers will really help you narrow it down a bit.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@jmt:  keep in mind that even if she “deserves” a large ring, it really might look cartoonish if she has very small hands. Also bear in mind that if you live in certain areas, a very ostentatious ring might get her mugged. DX It really depends on your area, it might not be a huge issue where you live, but it is something to consider.

 

 

 

If I were you, I’d ask her friends what she likes, and look over any pictures she has shown you of rings she likes. What is the size of the stones she most usually gravitates towards? What is her style of jewelry normally (delicate and refined? Chunky and fun? Simple and practical? etc.)

 

If she works in a field where she uses her hands a lot (like nursing) you might want to get her a ring with a low profile (or get her a high profile tacori and a seperate, less expensive, more practical ring for work)

 

 

 

Really, it all depends on your lady. 🙂

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@TwoStatesBride:  Haha true, but yours has the 6 prongs! I like that… I couldn’t see that on the site

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

IMO i think a 2 carat center will be too much for her petite frame. i think around the 1 carat mark would look awesome!

Post # 16
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753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Is your heart set on 2 carats? Unfortunately, $10,000 just isn’t going to make that happen. I priced it out on blue nile, and a Very Good cut, H color, VS2 clarity stone with medium flourescence is $18,265. That’s just the stone, not including the setting. Likely, a jeweler would price that stone at even more $$. 

Do you know what is more important to her- size or quality? That $18,265 stone could turn into a $33,518 stone if she really wants an Ideal cut, E color, VVS2 clarity stone. And even the $33,518 stone, with such great other specs, has very strong flourescence. 

A “perfect” diamond could run you $200,000 at 2 carats. 

I would make sure you know which factor- size, or quality- is most important to her. I would be pretty upset if my FI had gotten me a 2 carat diamond with a big inclusion and K color, when he could have gotten me 1.5 carats, VS2, and so on. 

You said that you’re okay with spending more than you can afford…I presume, you mean taking out a loan to cover the rng? If you are comfortable with it, and the payments, I don’t think that should be a problem, but make sure that she’s okay with it. There are some people who would be very uncomfortable with that (and I’m sure you’ll encounter them shortly, here on weddingbee!!)

As far as stacked bands go, I’d recommend you go with the engagement ring and let her decide from there. She sounds like she has very dainty hands- it might be overwhelming for them. But, you both can decide on that before you get married!

 

 

 

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