[HELP] Please help me (a guy) get the perfect engagement ring.

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 138
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3102 posts
Sugar bee

@jmt:  I’ve never liked the idea of paying a premium just for a brand name.  You’ll find the perfect ring, just keep looking!

Post # 139
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769 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That’s too bad about your experience. That setting you posted is absolutely beautiful, and you could most likely find a suitable alternative that doesn’t carry the Tacori price tag. My FI worked with our jeweller to have my ring custom made. He had a little more guidance from me as to what I wanted, but so long as you have a clear idea going in of what you’re looking for and are working with a reputable jeweller, there’s no reason you wouldn’t come away with a spectacular ring. Though you’ve mentioned you would not want to purchase a ring you hadn’t seen in person (totally understandable), I humbly submit my ring as an example of excellent custom work: 

 

 

In closer detail: 

 

 

Bear in mind that my ring (at my insistence) doesn’t have any scroll or millgrain design that most Tacori rings have. However, the two halos and pave-set shank (with a slight split near the halo not visible in the pictures, but also set with diamonds) is plenty of detail for me. I wanted clean lines and lots of sparkle, and that’s exactly what I got. FI wan’t able to see the setting before it was done, but he was able to select the centre stone and see it loose first. He also got MUCH higher quality diamonds than we were seeing in most pre-made settings. I strongly urge you to at least discuss going custom with a jeweller you trust. You may be pleasesantly surprised. Good luck finding the perfect ring!! Your FI-to-be would be proud and very glad you are putting this much effort into getting it right 🙂

 

Post # 140
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550 posts
Busy bee

@jmt:  You, sir, are quite awesome. 

The only real advice I have is keep in mind her preference. I think that gentlemen might get too caught up in giving expensive rings and don’t really see what it really represents or what she prefers. In all honesty, I actually hate that my FI spent a lot of money on my ring. I wish he hadn’t. I also wish he had included me in the process as I believe it is something both people should discuss. But that’s just me and my crazy quirks. We’re talking about you and your super lucky girl (BTW congrats!!) and you know best about her. I think you are ahead of the game know what metal she wants and her style. Does she actually want a diamond? Has she looked as specific rings? Has she indicated she doesn’t want to be part of the process? 

I think the rings you’ve posted are very lovely and if they suit both you and girl, I say yay! I think it’s super amazing you are researching and thinking about it. You can get some very lovely rings at local jewelry stores. I’m not sure what’s around you but I know there are several places near me that do custom pieces that are absolutely stunning. Have you thought at about custom pieces at all?

I’m sorry for the novel!

 

Post # 141
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

If you decide to go the online route, I second Good Old Gold.  I also got my ring from there and they are out of this world.  They will handpick stones for you and will even shoot videos in different lighting situations to show you the differences.  They are TOP NOTCH.

 

Tacori rings are beautiful and for the longest time I wanted the 2620, but then I fell in love with a Ritani setting.  My FI paid a premium for a “branded” ring and I did/do totally love it, but now I understand that while you do get wonderful workmanship, I’ve never, ever told anyone my ring was a Ritani.  It’s just not something you do and I doubt your girl will walk around saying her ring is a Tacori either.  

You are doing an AWESOME job and she is going to love whatever it is you decide to get her — Tacori or not.  I can’t wait to see what you end up with.

 

Here is a picture of my ring for reference:

 

 

Post # 142
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800 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@jmt:  I have a tacori. However mine is just a solitaire so it doesnt look very “tacori” and I am assuming that is what she wants. 

 

I honestly regret asking for it. It was overpriced. He paid 2k for a white gold solitaire band. That can get you platinum with diamonds every where on blue nile (that isnt what I wanted anyways, but still…)

A non-tacori solitaire in 18k gold would have been 1k tops. Really, I regret it. It is absurd. 

Post # 143
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1918 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Honestly I would rather put the money into a more quality diamond than have a fancy setting.  If your budget is limited and you’re set on buying a larger diamond, I think it’s definitely worth investing in a higher quality diamond.

 

FWIW-I liked a JB Star ring that I tried on at Michael C. Fina.  The setting alone was $10,000.  Our jeweler was able to make the same setting for a fraction of the price in platinum and we were able to get a much nicer GIA certified diamond.

Costco doesn’t have a great selection of styles and I find that a lot of them rings look very warm.

 

Post # 144
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1771 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@jmt:  http://www.costco.com/bridal-collections.html

Costco apparently sells GIA certified D/IF diamonds according to their website..Although even at Costco it’s extremely unlikely you will be able to get a high quality diamond in the 2 carat range for $10k+! ..especially not with a Tacori setting.

here is a 1.34 GIA G VS2 Triple excellent in platinum from Costco for $10K 1.34 ctw Round VS2 Clarity, G Color

 

Post # 145
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287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I just want to add that you may be right on with looking at verragio and even Simon G, if she likes Tacori, she will like these as well. I suggest looking at them in person and have a reputable jeweler custom makes the setting with a loose stone of your choosing. Shubachs makes beautiful rings and their customer service and integrity are amazing. I know it’s not seeing the setting complete before purchase but I’ve never heard a bee not 100% over the moon over their ring from them. It’s worth a call, they can point you in the right direction with no bs

Post # 146
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8 posts
Newbee

@jmt:  That is the exact ring I picked (2620). The setting alone in White Gold is almost $4G, if you want a matching tacori band be prepared to add around $2G’s per band. as for diamonds, I am searching for round brilliant diamonds 1.75- 2 carats for my 6.25 size finger. The cost for a VS clarity, G colour (matches the colour of the diamonds in that setting) with an excellent cut (most important factor when searching for diamonds as cut can make the diamond surface area larger than a poorly cut “deep” diamond. Anyways cost for this type of stone is around $20-30+G’s, my overall budget is $30G’s for the setting and diamond and I am struggling to try to get what I want with that price range. However I am in Canada so the prices might be a bit better if you are in the States. The bloom will make the stone look bigger, so if she is really small then 1.5 carats will look large in that ring. My friend has a size 4 ring finger and when she tried on the ring i want (with a 2 carat stone) it looked really overwhelming.

If you bring in another ring she wears on her left hand ring finger then they will be able to figure out her size. However, if the ring is on any other finger then the size is irrelevant. The right hand tends to have larger fingers if right handed and vice versa for left handed people. my ring would not fit on my right ring finger or any other finger to be honest. as well with a ring like the one you like which is top heavy the ring will generally have to be tighter than a band as it will flop around and may come loose (bad when so expensive!!!). try to use a piece of string to measure, maybe when she is sleeping (creepy sounding, i know) or get one of her girlfriends to find out for you (assuming you want to keep it a complete surprise).

Hope that helps!

 

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