(Closed) Help, please!! How long should I wait for bridesmaid feedback on their dresses?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I would call her and say that the other girls have decided on a dress they want and that you have to all order soon in order to lock in the discounted price. Tell her that you are ordering them in X days (in a week, or sooner if you need to do it before then – just give her a deadline!) and tell her that if she wants to get the discount, she’s more than welcome to send you the info on the dress you want and you’ll add her in, but just tell her that if you don’t hear from her you’ll have to go ahead and order the dress and she’ll miss out on the discount.

It’s not your fault if she chooses not to get back to you, so don’t feel bad about it! Just make sure you and the other BMs get your discounts! 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would go with your first option and ask her to orderone of the two your other bridesmaids has selected. 

I would just send her an email explainging just what you wrote here–that it would save everyone money and that she hadn’t gotten back to you in time.  Then if she still wants to look she can be on her own.  Sounds like you have been fairly patient and it’s time to make a decision.  You shouldn’t need to babysit her so explain the sitaution and savings, tell her the date you’ll be ordering yours so she has an absolute deadline, and let her worry about it!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

That’s annoying! I get irritated when BM’s are unresponsive. Especially when I was just in their weddings a few months ago and spent almost $1,000 and weeks of my time and they can’t even bother to return a phone call or email. Sorry for the vent.

If I were you, I would send her an email titled “Dress Order Deadline”. In the email, I would explain that you and the other 2 girls have all chosen your dresses and figured out a way to save $, but have to order by X date to cash in on the savings. Tell her that she can participate in your order and save the same percentage, but she has to decide which dress she wants by X date. In order not to sound too pushy, also explain that if she is too busy, you totally understand and she can order anytime, but won’t get the discounted rate.

Call her later on that day to tell her about the email (in case she tries to scan through it again) and ask if she has any questions. If she still doesn’t decide by the date you give her, try calling her one last time to tell her you’re ordering and see if she has any update.

Good luck!

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