Post # 1
So my FMIL has been patiently-ish regularly reminding FI and I that people are asking about gifts for our engagement party, which is in about six weeks, and on the other side of the country from where we live. We’ve lived together for a year and a half, so we’re pretty well stocked on the traditional registry items, but in April we bought a house, so there are a bunch of things we could get relating to that, rugs, curtains, curtain rods, a lot of furniture, but some of that is expensive, does anyone know if there’s an easy way to have multiple people contribute towards a large item? And would it be weird to register for a couple power tools and/or paint, and/or other home improvement stuff? And we were thinking of just using Amazon, does that sound like a good idea? What about the idea of a puppyfund? We want another dog, and this could go towards adoption fees, vet visits, and food for a few months or something.
Any and all advice greatly appreciated, including links to helpful articles/blog posts!
Post # 3
@ladyamalthea: If you are having your engagement party across the country, I would get the word out that you would apprecaite gift cards to three of your favorite stores. This way you don’t have to worry about having to transport all of your gifts back home 🙂
Post # 4
@ladyamalthea: Since you just bought a house and live across the country, I would kindly ask your FMIL to ask guests to consider giving gift cards to a home store where you can purchase those things at. You can also go and register for gifts. Its easy!! The gift registry can accomodate by having the gift giver purchase off your registery in one location and the gift receiver picking up in another location.
Happy scanning!! 😉
Post # 5
just have your FMIL spread the word that you would like gift cards to Home Depot, etc.
although people do give engagement gift, engagement parties aren’t gift giving events.
just make sure to register before the shower.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
The blog Young House Love has a great registry tips blog post: http://www.younghouselove.com/2012/07/registry-dos-and-dohs/
(Also, since you just bought a house, you should DEFINITELY check out that blog. They have years’ worth of posts of every single kind of DIY project you can imagine.)
I think curtains and that kind of thing are fine! We used myregistry.com, where you can put anything that’s available online all on one registry.
Post # 7
Thank you everyone for the tips so far! I think a lot of my FMIL’s friends would rather give a gift than a gift card, but I know when we bought a friend something off of their online registry at Crate & Barrel, it was shipped directly to them, so I think we can get away with asking for that seeing as it’d be hard to take a bunch of gifts on a plane.
Anyone else with advice, please share! 🙂
Post # 8
Hm…is there anything you have that could use an upgrade? FI and I have lived together for almost three years and we still registered for a ton of stuff (at Target) because what we did have was the cheap crap I bought several years ago when I moved into a place of my own. We registered for a nice knife set/block (with a built in sharpener!) so that we could get rid of our three Walmart knives. We registered for nicer, all white dishes and servewear, new flatware (because the crap I bought has a plastic handle and we’ve lost all but one of the forks, and the other handles are cracked and stuff), a cool new coffeemaker, nicer/larger food processor, new duvet, sheets, duvet cover set, vacuum, tool set, tons of frames, blender, electric wine chiller and opener set, etc. etc.
Post # 9
I think most people know that they can go in together on a gift…that’s what my sister and I do if we are invited to the same wedding. At one, My sister just paid for it, and I paid her my half. I’ve done this loads of time for gifts and stuff with other people.
Post # 10
@ladyamalthea: I love the Home Depot GC idea! I would still register though, and people should be polite enough to have it shipped (they can give you a picture in a card at the party or something if they want).
I would really recommend having at least one brick and mortar store registry (and check out the store, even if you do the registering online, so you know what it will be like for your guests). People like to come in and buy something and see all of your choices.
Post # 11
We actually did most of our registering yesterday! Or at least a good chunk of it lol. Thanks all for the advice! We decided to do a combination of brick & mortar & online, and I don’t think anyone should go without the experience of going around a store with a laser scanner. 🙂 We’re using a site called giftregistry360 or something like that, for free it puts your registries with its partners, which include crate& barrel, target, and amazon, among others, all in one place. 🙂 A decent amont of people will likely give cash, and we’d love home depot gift cards, but I think it’s simpler to just register for target gift cards, which can always come in handy 🙂