Post # 1
The original plan for the cake was to have my friend (who makes wedding cakes as a side job) make our wedding cake. Because our wedding is out of town and we were going to do a 4 tier cake, she said she couldn’t do it. I understood and moved on so the next plan was to have a fake cake that she could decorate in advance and then do sheet cakes for everyone to eat. This has been the plan for 3 months and now that it is 4 months before the wedding my Fiance decides he does not like this plan. He wants to pay for a four tier cake to be done professionally which we can not afford or have time to get figured out as the wedding is out of town for us as well or have my friend make a small cake and then still get a sheet cake for the rest of the people. I do not understand his thinking in this and really don’t want to call my friend to trouble her with this after we already let the original plan go. I guess what I need help with is what you think I should do. Should I just go with the fake cake and serve sheet cakes and hope that the day of he will not care (which I believe when it is the day this is not something he will notice. I just think he doesn’t understand what it will look like or how it will go so he just says he doesn’t like it.) Or is there something else I can do. Kind of at a loss and dont need this extra stress of this quick change.
Post # 3
Hi, not sure where you are from… But here we can buy already iced cakes in differing sizes, so that you can just stack them yourself, and either add fresh flowers or ribbon for effect, it’s a much cheaper way of doing it and can look really nice
this for example
Post # 4
Do the fake and sheet cake!!
Post # 5
You should sit down and explain the logistics of this and provide him some examples of “fake” cakes and exactly what you are talking about. Pull up some posts or blogs that talk about it. I don’t think that it is a good idea to just ignore his thoughts on this. You run the risk of making him feel duped. I just don’t think that is a very good idea. I really believe that the best thing is for the two of you to sit down and come up with a consensus.
Post # 6
I agree with tksjewelry that you should definitely do soem research and have a dicussion with him. We did the fake cake and sheet cake and it worked out perfectly.
1) easier for catering staff to serve the sheet cake
2) could have more options for sheet cake
3) no fondant on the sheet cakes
4) the fake cake can be on display for the whole reception
5) you can keep the fake cake on display at home
6) less waste
Post # 7
Honestly, I would at least try to listen to your future husband’s wishes; work together to try to make a real 4-tier cake happen (assemble it yourselves or by a trusted relative, have someone interview
It’s his wedding too.
If, in the process of trying to make it happen, he realizes that the sheet cake is a better idea, then you both are happy.
Post # 8
What about compromising? Maybe a 2 tier DIY cake- much easier to assemble 2 tiers rather than 4 successfully, then you could use fresh flowers to decorate on sight. Then have sheet cakes to serve the guests. Personally, I am not a fan of fake cakes (I’m not even having fondant on mine bc it tastes fake to me)- although they always look nice.
Post # 9
Does he know how much a 4-tier costs?? That would have been enough to convince my DH! 🙂
Post # 10
We discussed it and we are going to do three fake tiers with the top 4th tier being real. This is what we will cut for pictures and then we will have them take the cake away and serve sheet cake. I wanted to do little fowers on each piece but then he thinks people will know it is fake so to make him happy we will just do plain white.
Works for me and he is happy. Check =) thanks all for your suggestions! It was a great help. In the long run I knew we needed to discuss it but I was just frustrated at the time 🙁
Post # 11
@CEtoSAHM: The silly thing is I did research pricing and went through all of that with him and that is how we decided on the fake cake but then he went and changed his mind. Boys… 😉