Post # 1
I bought my first dress back in December a month after I got engaged. I like the dress but I didn’t get that ‘wow’ feeling however I never wear dresses or rarely even do my hair so I didn’t think it was weird to not have a ‘Say Yes’ moment.
Recently I found a dress on Oncewed.com and fell in love. However, I can’t return the first dress. First dress cost $470. Possible second dress $900 with free shipping and a catherdal length veil. So that’s $1400ish for two dresses, one of which I wouldn’t even wear, I don’t want one for ceremony and one for reception.
Everyone who I know whom I’ve told is all like GET THE SECOND DRESS however the two most important ppl besides the FI are my mom and sister who both think I’d be an idoit to get the second dress.
No matter what happens I’m selling my dress (or dresses) after I get married. August wedding.
PLEASE SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS!
Post # 3
You are the one that is going to have to ultimately make the decision. I don’t know what you look like in either dress, so I can’t really say what you should do; however, if it was me, I would stick with the first dress. I like it a lot better than the second one. Also, I suggest that you stop looking at other dresses.
Post # 4
I guess you have to decide if the second dress is worth $1400. I am assuming you have not tried on the second dress so there is also the possibility that you won’t like it on. Why do your mom and sister think you’s be an idiot to get the second dress? Have they seen the first one on you? I guess it is really about fit and how you feel in the dress. I actually really like the first one better but can see how the fit would be slightly different on both.
Post # 5
I would try on the dress by Rosa Clara is a store – I actually tried that dress on very early and I loooooooooved it. It has a totally different feel than any other dress I tried on. The original price in the store was $1300 or so, so paying 1400 for it (plus alterations) will not be totally ridiculous.
I had also struggled with a second dress that was amazing, but I’m sticking with the dress I have. Regardless of what it actually looks like, the dress will be “the one” because it’s what I will wear to marry the love of my life. It’s cheesy but it’s true.
Post # 6
Get the second dress. You will get married once in your life. One day of your life, you get to feel like a princess. One day of your life, all eyes are on you. Get the dress. Sell the first one, take what you get for it and get the dress that makes you feel fabulous. Even if you can’t sell the first dress and you’re out that $400, TO ME, it’s worth it to feel 100% on your wedding day. Not only will you feel amazing that day, but you’ll be looking at those pictures the rest of your life. I would not want to look back at my wedding pictures and say… eh, that dress is okay, but I sure wish I’d gotten the other one. I really think you should go for it. TO ME, if your budget is such an issue, I’d be looking to cut $400 somewhere else. For me, and many people think I’m crazy, the dress is the ONE area that really matters – other than photography and, y’know… the groom 😉
Post # 7
I personally like the first dress better, but really it’s all in your own style. My honest advice is to stop looking at other dresses. Doing that is only going to make you question your selection.
Post # 8
I also like the first dress better than the second one, BUT I was a two dress bride and totally respect girls that buy a second dress. (I sold my first one for about 2/3 of the total that I paid for it, including alterations. You’ll never recoup 100%.) I know what it’s like to fall in love with a dress after you’ve already bought one, and when you thought it would never be possible. It’s awesome! And believe me, you’ll glow and radiate in confidence when you’re wearing that second dress that you love, while marrying your love. No one should get married in one dress while wishing she were wearing a different dress that she had seen and passed up. 🙁 Good luck with your decision!
Post # 9
It is your day, but I personally like the first dress much better. It depends if you have the money/ want to spend it. At least for me, that is what it would come down to. I think the first one is lovely and would listen to the people you trust the most.
Post # 10
Have you even tried the second dress on yet? If you have then It’s up to you to decide which one you love most. But honestly; if you havn’t tried on the second one; I wouldn’t get too worked up until you do. They look so different on then they do on a model or on the rack.
ps: I actually prefer the first dress!
Post # 11
WHy dont you keep the first dress and use it for something like Trash the dress? i was thinking about buying one on e bay hopefully for less than 100 to do a trash the dress photo shoot
Post # 12
I prefer the first dress, too. And I second the posters who suggest that you try on the second dress before you buy it, because wouldn’t it stink if you decided to buy it and then it didn’t even fit or feel good?
Post # 13
get the dress. the price isnt too much when you consider how quickly you might be able to make it back/pay it off… and pics last a lifetime.
Post # 14
I think you should get the second dress if you can afford it and you really love it. You have to look at those pictures of yourself in that dress for the next 50 years. You might as well say Im glad I got that dress instead of I should have gotten the other one.