- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Sigh…I can’t believe I am still obsessing over everything that went wrong on my wedding. It was wonderful, amazing. But, I planned every little DIY detail…and now I regret decisions that I made and things that I left up to my wedding planner which were not done as planned. Help me get over this. I can’t stop thinking about it. My husband doesn’t understand, thinks everything was amazing, it was amazing…but so many things that I think went wrong. I know it is the marriage which counts (which is INCREDIBLE) and he is the most amazing husband…but I am driving myself crazy and am seriously depressed thinking about these regrets.
#1 – Biggest regret is my dress. I saw it in a magazine, and decided it was the one before trying it on, finally got to try it on at a trunk show, just tried on 2 others that day, didn’t feel great when i put it on, but had convinced myself it was the one, was pressured to buy it that day because of the 10 or 20% off for the trunk sale…i just don’t think it was flattering on me, stuck to my stomach, my biggest insecurity, why didn’t i pick a dress with rouching? ugh…I have already spent hours and hours on end, picking a new dress…the problem is this was done a month after the wedding!!
#2 – Trash the Dress Session, photos were huge for us. I really wanted an amazing TTD session on the beach, somehow we ran out of time and got no beach, in the water shots, I am so depressed about this, keep looking at other people’s TTD photos and am so envious, it is crazy
#3 – Flowers in my hair – I forgot to put the flowers in my hair…partly bc I didn’t like the flower comb my planner made for me…but then forgot to put in anything at all…i wore a bird cage and wanted to put in fresh flowers instead of a facinator, there was nothing there…looked like it started from nowhere
#4 – Ceremony – Planner forgot to pass out the leis to my groomsmen, it was supposed to be “shoes optional” and the groomsmen and bridesmaids were to be barefoot, no one reminded the groomsmen and groom and they were wearing shoes…she didn’t set up my sand ceremony vases at the beach under the canopy…she didn’t hand out rose petals for people to throw when we walked down the aisle, the band didn’t start playing when we walked down….my wedding singer decided for some reason to announce my name when i walked in down the aisle, WHY?? and he pronounced my name wrong, 2 or 3 times! badly wrong…
#5 – Frist Dance – we took lessons for our first dance, nothing crazy, but hadn’t had time to practice in days, when we got out there, i totally forgot the moves…
One solution I have is to buy a new dress…I know this is so crazy…and do another TTD session, months and months after, is this totally crazy?? it is going to cost thousands of dollars…which we do not have laying around. I feel like it would help my mind, but I think it is so selfish and narcissistic. Is it??